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20 Things A Truly Great Partner Doesn’t Do

20 Things A Truly Great Partner Doesn’t Do

Being a great partner means certain characteristics are displayed. A great partner doesn’t do any of these things.

1. They don’t belittle your dreams

Great partners see your success as part of their success. They want you to achieve great things and they will support you on the path you are trying to take.

2. They don’t constantly remind you of your failures

Granted we all make mistakes and fail sometimes. But a great partner does not make a big deal out of your failures or mistakes.

3. They don’t disrespect you in public

Great partners know that you are an integral part of their world. They could scorn you privately but never will they give you a public shaming.

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4. They don’t exert control on your world

Great partners offer you the freedom to excel. They are not domineering and they wouldn’t want to twist your arm to always do what they want.

5. They don’t seek vengeance

They do not always find an avenue to pay a tooth for a tooth or an eye for an eye. They would find a way to move on with you rather than seek revenge for every hurt you direct at them.

6. They don’t encroach on your space

Even in a relationship everyone needs his/her space. A great partner will respect that you need your space and there is a life outside the relationship as well.

7. They don’t feel indifferent to your feelings

They are concerned about how you feel and will never abandon you to deal with certain emotional situations alone.

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8. The don’t take the superior position

They see you as a partner and do not belittle or consider you inferior. Rather they want you to be part of every decision they make.

9. They don’t disappoint you

If they want you in their world a great partner will be there to keep to his promises and stand up to any responsibility he commits himself to as regards to.

10. They don’t make you feel insecure

They are not threatening or want to impose themselves on you. Rather they complement and make you feel you are part of a team.

11. They don’t constantly disapprove of everything you do

They do not see you as a pain and disapprove of every action you take. If you need some counsel or advice they are willing to offer it to you.

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12. They don’t expose every aspect of the relationship to the world

Great partners keep certain things in your relationship private. They understand that the relationship is just between two of you.

13. They don’t treat you like a disposable object

A great partner appreciates you. He/she knows that you are special and keeps you that way. They want to treat you as something they can keep.

14. They don’t think they are always perfect

A great partner knows that he/she will make mistakes and when they do they don’t think they are always right.

15. They don’t always disbelieve you

A great partner trusts you. He knows that you are part of his success and has no reason to continue disbelieving everything you say.

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16. They don’t tell you demeaning jokes

Humor can be used as medium of mockery and sarcasm. A great doesn’t humor to abuse you but to make you happy.

17. They don’t blame you for their problems

They don’t see you as a hindrance to their success rather they see you as someone who makes them happy.

18. They don’t become sensitive when you make a joke

When you throw a joke at a great partner they can laugh at them and see the humor in it.

19. They don’t make you feel as if you are not good enough

A great partner knows you are not just good enough for them but great and everything they need.

20. They don’t force you to prove your love

They know that you have the right to show your love and they are not accusing of things to make you feel as if you don’t care.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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