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12 Ways To Identify A Shopaholic

12 Ways To Identify A Shopaholic

There are many different kinds of people with their own views on happiness and wealth. Many are happy to see their money on the computer screen with several commas and in the shade of green when they pull up their bank statement… and then there are those that like their money where they can see it: in their closet hanging so perfectly on a hanger. Shopaholics are an example of the latter.  Are you questioning if you are a shopaholic because you just went on a pay day shopping spree or trying to prove your girlfriend that she might be a shopaholic and therapy might actually be cheaper? Whatever the reason you are reading this article, here are twelve things only shopaholics understand.

1. They have price tags in their closet

If you have ever been in their closet (and I say in because there is no way you are not walking into it,) you have seen more price tags or size stickers than you should in someone’s house. It isn’t because they plan on returning it or that they just bought it, it is simply because it has not been used yet. Don’t try to guess how long it’s been there either… just don’t.

2. They can sort their closet by every color of the rainbow… and every color in between

As you are trying to comprehend the reasoning for buying something and not wearing it, a thought pops in your head. Why does it look like a claustrophobic rainbow stumbled into their closet and threw up everywhere? There are more colors in this room than there are paint swatches at Home Depot!

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3. They buy more than they need

If you have a friend that is a shopaholic, then you understand this completely. The first warning sign should have been that they still had tags on some articles of clothing in their sacred closet. They buy more than they need. They will go down every aisle, especially on a down day, and check and see what looks cute, cool, comfy, etc. Do they need it? Yes, they need it like we all needed that Geometry class in high school.

4. They are firm believers in retail therapy

Retail therapy may be the more expensive option oppose to actual therapy. Let me show you by example the different stages of a shopoholic’s need for retail therapy. Great day? Lets grab some food or ice cream… or maybe a shirt! “Meh” day? Maybe a quick coffee with my best friend at little place in the mall will help. Let’s look around and just check it out. Crappy/Worst day ever! It’s time to change who I am so I am happier. I need to make myself better! I just got paid like last week and if that still doesn’t cover the bill, I have my credit cards!

5. They have to leave their credit cards at home to stay out of trouble

Shopaholics can get out of control sometimes. The lucky ones catch the issue early on and only spend all the money in their back account after bills are paid. Others may have a giant credit card bill that is never going to shrink down because they can’t afford or give up their sense of style.

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6. They shop for more than themselves

Shopaholics don’t only shop for themselves. Usually if they purchase something for someone else, it is because they are out shopping for themselves but that doesn’t mean that they won’t buy things for their loved ones and friends if they know they will like it. Sometimes, they won’t even end up buying for themselves, the entire contents of the cart will be clothes for their significant other, their BFF, their boss or their parents. They are very thoughtful people, and often have a very big heart. Now don’t quote me on that, I don’t mean all of them. Don’t go befriending someone in high hopes they’ll start buying you Michael Kor Purses because they are your “favorite”kind of purse.

7. They think black Friday is the best day of the year

If you have a shopaholic as a friend, then you know that this a huge day for shopping and it doesn’t start at five in the morning anymore. Good thing Starbucks is open all night in order to keep everyone awake for the glorious amounts of fun you are going to be dragged into for the entire day. Bring cash that day so you can tell them no when they run out of money and ask for you to spot them.

8. They need someone to tell them to stop shopping

More often than not, shopaholics will bring a friend a long to keep them in check. To someone who loves shopping to a point that it is considered an addiction, they will swipe their card until it declines and they need someone to stop them when enough is enough. If you are that friend that they are bringing along, I am sorry. Also, take the last pointer I just gave, only bring cash!

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9. They cannot turn down a good deal

Sales, Semi-Annual Sales and big summer blowouts are their kryptonite. Nothing burns a hole in their pocket faster than a 50% off sign. Beware.

10. Their closet will have a variety of styles to match who they want to be for the day

They can dress like whoever they want to be or however they feel (lazy, sporty, cute, etc.)  like because the amount of things that fill up their closet. They are more than likely to have something than not when asked if they do. Make sense? Make friends with one that is the same size as you and make sure you are really good friends.

11. They wear only about 35% of their closet but will not give the rest away

Whenever they say, “I am going to clean out my closet and get rid of the stuff that I don’t wear”, don’t believe it for a second! They will sit there in the kingdom of retail store victories and come up with dozens of scenarios of when they will need everything in their closet. Everything. It doesn’t matter how many tips they take from Pinterest, it is no match compared to, “this shirt goes great with like fifty of my things… I need to keep it just in case.”

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12. Their shoe selection will put most people’s to shame

Their shoe collection could probably walk circles around your shoes and then march off to the shoe store to bring in some more shoes so they can come back and turn those circles into a Mickey Mouse design.

Featured photo credit: Alexa shopping mall Berlin- Reinhard Krull via flickr.com

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7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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