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11 Reasons Photographers Are Great Partners

11 Reasons Photographers Are Great Partners

Photographers have a unique way of looking at the world. This perspective can make them one of the most interesting types of people to have a long-term relationship with. Although they will spend a lot of time with their camera, they are also likely to make you the focus of some of their favorite pieces of art. If you have a photographer in your life, you are probably already aware of the many things that make them great. However, it is still a good idea to review these points so that you can realize again just how lucky you are to have one of these artistic individuals in your life.

1. They Are Creative

A photographer has to be creative in order to thrive in their chosen field. Their level of creativity typically extends beyond their photographs. For example, photographers are more likely to come up with creative ideas for keeping the romance alive in your relationship. They are also able to take a creative approach to everything from problem solving to furniture placement.

2. They Pay Attention to Minor Details

Have you ever dated someone who never noticed when you changed your hairstyle or rearranged your living room? Fortunately, a photographer will never fail to notice minor details because they spend a lot of their time closely analyzing everything in order to produce the best possible photographs. This makes them an especially suitable partner for people who thrive on having minor changes noticed and celebrated.

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3. They Are Dedicated

Being a photographer might seem glamorous from the outside, but the reality is that it is a very tough profession to break into. As of 2012, there were only 136,300 photography jobs in the U.S., so most people only use their camera as a hobby. If your partner is dedicated enough to their craft that they make even part of their income from photography, you can rest assured that they have the ability to put this same level of dedication into your relationship.

4. They Will Make You Look Your Best

A truly skilled photographer can find the best light and angle for anyone. This can help you view yourself in a different way. Experts have estimated that up to 85 percent of people have low self-esteem. A U.K. study found that younger women are reporting an increasingly larger amount of dissatisfaction with their personal appearance. Having a photographer partner who takes stunning pictures of you is definitely a good way to boost your confidence and self-esteem.

5. They Document Everything

Most people have found themselves upset that they failed to photograph a major life moment. This is not something that you will ever need to worry about again if your partner is a photographer. These individuals will always be thinking about the importance of capturing everything on film. They are also more likely than the average person to actually print and frame their photographic mementos of some of the best moments of your life. Being surrounded by these memories can help keep your spirits up, serving as a constant reminder of your partner’s thoughtfulness.

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6. They Are Grateful

A good photographer knows that their best images are made up of three parts: inspiration, skill, and luck. Any photographer who has ever happened upon a perfectly lit scene knows what it is like to feel grateful. This gratitude toward life’s little moments is also likely to spill over into your relationship. After all, they will have the innate ability to recognize that every other aspect of their life is also built on a mixture of skill, inspiration, and luck.

7. They Have a Good Sense of Humor

It is practically impossible to survive as a photographer without possessing the ability to laugh at oneself. Even the most skilled photographer in the world will end up deleting more images than they keep. The only way to get through this process without becoming heartbroken or hurting themselves through too much internal criticism is by laughing off each perceived mistake and missed opportunity. This tendency to look for the humorous side of things makes photographers more able to joke about other things that go wrong in their life. This is definitely a desirable quality in a partner.

8. They Are Constantly Learning

No one can ever claim to know every single thing about the art of photography. Due to this, those who are truly committed to their love of the camera will constantly be seeking out new information. This could come in the format of reading new books, taking classes, or simply experimenting on a regular basis and keeping a log of their results. This love of learning about photography often extends into many other areas. Having a partner who always desires new information will keep your relationship interesting. As an added bonus, your partner is likely to be just as open to learning new emotional, sexual, and conversation skills that can enhance your relationship.

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9. They Are Sensitive to the Needs of Others

If your partner works with models, then they have to understand how to make others feel comfortable in awkward situations. A prime example is anyone who offers boudoir photography. This photo style has recently become very popular among brides-to-be, so it is necessary for photographers to put each of their clients at ease by tuning into their verbal and non-verbal cues. This same sensitivity will help you because your partner will be more in tune with your emotions and they will also be able to better handle sensitive situations.

10. They Can Find the Beauty in Everything

Photographers know that every subject has beauty, whether it is a colorful flowerbed or a dilapidated old building. This means that they have honed their ability to find beauty in even the most mundane aspects of life. This quality will make every single day more enjoyable. Your photographer partner will point out things to you that you never would have noticed otherwise, and they will still see your radiance even on your worst days. With a photographer by your side, it will become more difficult to miss the beauty that is all around you and within yourself.

11. They are More Attractive

Professor Scott Barry Kaufman conducted a revealing study on University of Pennsylvania students which ties into the irresistible nature of photographers. After the study concluded Kaufman discovered that photographers were viewed as exceptionally attractive based on their creative profession. What made the students decide this? Well, a number of factors convinced them that professional photographers were good-looking – including the ten characteristics previously mentioned. Students in the study cited that shutterbugs had other dreamy characteristics like their nomadic lifestyles and willingness to meet new people.

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Anyone whose partner is a photographer can easily attest to the fact that they make life less boring. Every experience can become an adventure when photographers have their camera by their side. They will also help non-photographers understand the transformative power of looking at anything through the lens. With all of these skills and natural traits, it is no surprise that so many people believe that photographers are their perfect mate.

Featured photo credit: Flickr user Jon Bunting via flic.kr

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How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward

Many of us feel awkward talking to strangers. I’m a very outgoing person, even though I sometimes feel uncomfortable walking up to someone and asking a question or starting a conversation. I consider myself pretty high up on the extrovert meter. So what is it that makes us pause and become worried or anxious about talking to people we don’t know?

In this article, we will discuss why we feel this way as well as some tips on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

Step right up, don’t be shy!

Why We Feel Awkward Talking to Strangers

The next time you feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger, tell yourself that’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons why it’s actually natural to feel awkward talking to strangers:

Our Stress Levels Rise Around Strangers

Numerous studies have show that our levels of cortisol go up when we are around strangers.[1] Cortisol is the hormone inside of us which produces stress responses.[2]
So there you go, right off the bat you can see part of your standard response to strangers is due to a chemical reaction!

A very interesting by product of increased cortisol is that it makes us less empathetic. More than likely this can be traced to our evolution. The increase in the cortisol and the corresponding decrease in empathy makes us want to stay away from strangers. We are biologically wired to feel concern around strangers.

Evolution Taught Us to Be Wary

Evolution has also taught us to be wary of strangers in general. Humans as a whole have spent a large chunk of their history banded together in small protective groups. We did this in order to help protect each other and maximize resources.

When you think about it in this context, outsiders to our small groups or strangers are considered potential threats. Fear of strangers is common across almost all human cultures.

Culturally Conditioned

We can also thank our society for helping us feel uncomfortable and sometimes afraid of strangers. The term “stranger danger” is something most of us can relate to either growing up or raising kids. Or both.

I remember hearing this from my parents, mostly about not getting in someone’s car I didn’t know. And as the father of 2 teenage girls, you can be sure I’ve talked to them about this very concept more times that they want to hear.

The thought that strangers can be dangerous is built into us as it is. Toss in the amplification of the media on strangers doing things such as kidnapping kids and it takes it to an even higher level.

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Now that we’ve reviewed some of the reasons why we are nervous, let’s look at why you should talk to strangers more.

Benefits of Getting over the Awkwardness

Let’s take a quick look at some of the advantages of how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward. These are some high level benefits of talking to strangers.

1. Broadens Your Network

After you talk to someone, you didn’t know previously they become someone you know at least a little bit. This alone helps broaden your network of people you know. This is helpful in many ways whether it is work related or socially related.

2. Improves Your Communication Skills

I am a huge proponent of the value of solid communication skills and have written about it often. The more you talk to people, especially people you don’t know, the better your communication skills become.

Interacting with a wider variety of people will bring the added benefit of improving your communication skills.

3. Continually Learning

So many of us don’t actively seek to learn new things. This is one of the primary keys to staying engaged in life and our own personal self fulfillment.

Almost every time I speak to someone I didn’t know previously, I’ve learned something new. When we speak to strangers, it pushes us out of our comfort zones and we tend to learn new things.

4. Increases Self Confidence

Every time we learn to do something we were previously anxious about, we feel better about ourselves.

Forcing ourselves to talk to strangers will lead to increased self confidence. As we get more and more comfortable doing something that previously made us feel awkward, our self confidence will go up and up.

So, how to talk to strangers to reap these benefits?

How to Talk to Strangers

Here are some tips to on how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

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1. Say Hello

Putting “say hello” first may seem a bit obvious but let’s take a deeper look. Much of the social awkwardness when speaking to strangers is simply breaking the ice. The first words that will engage someone.

Most people will respond when someone says hello or hi to them. And those that don’t, you probably don’t want to talk to anyway.

Practice being the person that opens the door to a conversation. Say hello.

2. Ask About Them

Something that I have noticed over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. Even fairly private people tend to open up when asked about events in their lives.

You can ask leading questions that get people to talk about themselves and recent events. Things like recent movies watched or the summer vacation are great to get someone talking.

As a father, I also know that people love to talk about their kids. Asking about kids is a fairly easy topic to bring up and in general, most people will expound upon all the great things their kids do or are involved with.

3. Just Do It

One of the biggest reasons we don’t do things we want to or know we should is because we overthink it. Quit thinking about it so much and just do it.

When you give yourself the time to analyze every little angle about a situation, you also give plenty of time to talk yourself out of it. You’ll wind up thinking what if this happens or what if that happens.

Try to force yourself to jump right in without thinking about it too much. Whenever I have done this, I always feel great about it afterwards, no matter how it turned out.

4. Don’t Take It Personal

One of the greatest lessons in life I ever learned was don’t take anything personally. We all go through life with our own sets of experiences and see things through our own lens. The way people react to different situations has almost nothing to do with us. It has to do with previous experiences and the way people feel about things other than us.

When someone’s reaction isn’t what you’d hoped or expected, chances are it has nothing to do with you. Remember that and keep it in context.

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5. Get a Chuckle If Possible

I used the word chuckle purposely because it makes me laugh. In my opinion, it’s one of those funny words. We all like to laugh because it makes us feel good. And when someone makes us laugh, we typically remember those people in a positive light.

One of the best ways to make a conversation easy and free flowing is to get some laughter going. It doesn’t mean you have to be the master joke teller or anything. See if you can work in a way to make the person you are talking to get a smile or some laughter in. In fact, laughing at yourself maybe a nice try.

6. Detach

A great feeling is when you don’t mind which way something turns out, that you will be fine no matter what happens. Kind of like when I watch my two favorite football teams play against each other. I don’t really care who wins, I just want a fun game.

Treat talking to strangers the same way. You don’t really care how the conversation goes because you are detaching from the outcome. Make it a fun time with yourself and if the conversation goes well, awesome! If not then no big deal, move on.

7. Share Your Stories

Well, all like to feel connected to other people. And many times we wind up hanging out with people that we have things in common with. No surprise here.

To help with how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward, tell stories that have commonalities with the person you are talking to. Kids are an easy one. I have a daughter who was a competitive cheerleader and now plays club volleyball. I have instant connection and stories with strangers I speak with who have kids that play sports. It’s easy to relate to.

So when you are speaking to a stranger and you have a story or mutual connection point, bring it up.

8. Give a Compliment

Almost everyone likes hearing a compliment, whether they admit to it or not. As a general rule, we don’t give out enough compliments. It’s amazing how one small remark someone tosses your way about how good you look can literally make your entire day.

When you are speaking with someone you don’t know, see if you can work a compliment in. Nothing creepy here. Not a good idea to tell someone you just met that they are the prettiest or handsomest person you ever met. However, if you can share how you like their tattoo or shoes or something like that, it will help put the conversation into an easy going, smiling place.

9. Relax Your Body Language

If you go into a situation all worried and nervous, it shows on your body. Your shoulders are tensed up, there’s a look of consternation on your face, things like that.

When you engage a stranger in conversation, make it a point to relax your body language. Take a deep breath before you engage the person, let your body relax, and put a smile on your face. This will help relax you and it has the added benefit of putting the other person more at ease.

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If they see that you are relaxed, it helps them relax. Plus having open, engaging body language is very conducive to inviting someone to open up into a conversation with you.

10. Practice, Practice, Practice

Like everything else in life, talking to strangers gets easier with practice. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

Make it a point to talk to several strangers each week and it will definitely help you relax as you do it more and more.

After a while, it will become something you don’t even think about, you just do it. And that takes all of the awkwardness out of being in these type situations.

The Bottom Line

As we have seen, it is perfectly natural to feel awkward talking to strangers. We are biologically built that way and we have our own society constantly warning us how dangerous it is. It’s no wonder we feel awkward talking to strangers!

There are numerous benefits to learning to be more comfortable talking to strangers. See if you can employ some of the techniques mentioned to learn how to talk to strangers without feeling awkward.

Once you start practicing speaking with strangers more often and utilizing some of the tips, you will become more comfortable doing so. This in turn will lead to a learned new skill and increased self confidence.

Remember, everyone you know was a stranger at one time. Now get out there and make some new friends.

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