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This Artist Sits With Strangers, Then Sheds Tears

This Artist Sits With Strangers, Then Sheds Tears

Marina and Ulay’s intense 12 year love affair and artistic working relationship began in the 70s, and ended with a walk along the Great Wall of China in 1988. Each started from each end, then met in the middle for a last embrace, then parted. It was their final piece of artistic performance work together, poignant and dramatic, and the last time they had seen each other.

More than 20 years later. artist Marina Abramović shared one minute of silence with successive strangers as part of her work, The artist is present, at the Museum of Modern Art in New York. She was not aware that one of the apparent strangers would be Ulay. He waits in line. When his turn arrives he approaches the table a little nervously and sits. Marina looks up and the recognition on her face is instant. They smile slightly awkwardly at each other. The emotion builds over the minute they share, watching each other, remembering. They clutch each other’s hands and Marina sheds tears openly while Ulay struggles to keep his emotions more contained.

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At the end of the minute he leaves. She wipes her tears, smooths her hair, and takes a few moments, attempting to regain her composure, ready for the next stranger to arrive and sit.

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It is impossible to watch this video and not feel the powerful emotions that they feel. The strength of love that has carried over the years is apparent in their eyes. We are left wondering if they will continue seeing each other again afterwards, and yet sensing that they probably will not. It feels like both a privilege and an invasion to share this moment with them, and forces us to reflect upon and value our own loves, past and present.

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Featured photo credit: Marina Abramović, The Artist Is Present/Andrew Russeth via flickr.com

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7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

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2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

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These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

4. What are my goals in life?

Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

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You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

6. What do I not like to do?

An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

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7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

“What do I want to do with my life?”

So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

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