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9 Ways To Pump Success From The Unsuccessful

9 Ways To Pump Success From The Unsuccessful

Each and every one of us heads down the pathway towards success at some point during our time on Earth. While many of us seemingly fall away from our trails, often due to lack of proper tools or resources, a number have the potential of completing their journeys with enough time to fully embellish their victories. Unfortunately, we find ourselves defeat more often than success.

I’ve outlined the nine most useful ways to pump success back into your life, which is plenty of opportunity to write your own success story. No particular order applies to the following.

1. Spend 30 Days Documenting Your Every Movement

A journal that you record daily events such as encounters, failures, successes and thoughts can assist you to making proper adjustments in future situations. We can always learn more about ourselves if we’re consistently reminded of what we’ve endured thus far. For thirty days, summarize what specifically you’re doing; right or wrong really doesn’t matter as it’s an honest account of your daily activities that matters most.

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2. Find A Guide

Everyone trekking down the illustrious path towards success needs a guide who can be there, via phone or some other method of communication. Your ideal guide has been down your path or one similar to yours and can provide needed guidance should you seek it. Yes, this can be a family member or a friend; the most important aspect of this method is finding someone who’s fallen on his ass and found his way back. Why? He’s doing something (or several somethings) you’re not.

3. Perform A Fearless Moral Inventory

Sounds like an AA/NA step, right? Well, it is.  Except you’ll substitute an addictive substance for your moral, financial, or spiritual bankruptcy. Be honest with yourself; whether you’re a saint or not, write down how so and why. Be specific in notating what led you down this path. The more forthcoming you are with the dictation of your entire life’s failures, the better angle you’ll give yourself when improving your unsuccessful ways. Just remember, friends, a business that doesn’t track inventory will eventually go broke.

4. Budget Downtime Into Your Daily Routine

Humans become weary after long uninterrupted stints of effort. You may not necessarily be physically tired, but you can be emotionally worn out. Therefore, a respectable amount of “me time” gives you the opportunity to recuperate for the next day. It’s an ingenious tool which equates to taking a time-out in football; failure wants to smash through your defense, which means you’ll need to formulate an offensive plan to score a victory.  This allocated time, spent whenever you have the most mental energy, allows you to formulate a more well-rounded offensive strategy based off what’s failed prior to your current day. Downtime, in other words, gives each day’s events an equivocal amount of purpose and sustenance.

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5. Nourish Your Body, Mind and Soul

In order to have the necessary physical or mental energy to carry forth your ‘success mission’, you need some form of nourishment – this can come in the form of foodstuffs, literature, or some type of tribulation that could challenge your mental or physical prowess to advance well beyond your normal capacities. Believe it or not, some of today’s more widely known success coaches, billionaires, and thought leaders not only read often, they meditate and consume foods indicative to clean bodies such as juice diets and a good balance of the recommended daily allowance of nutrients.

6. Know What You Want, Not What Others Want For You

It’s noteworthy to mention how so many times in life we’re consumed with the desires of others. By no means is success defined as what your family pushes you to accomplish; don’t feel obliged to live their fantasy. Don’t walk through life holding someone else’s dreams or unfinished missions, and don’t be fooled into thinking you’re wrong for denying requests to become a doctor, football player, or cheerleader solely based off what your friends or parents couldn’t accomplish themselves. We’ve enough politicians morally bankrupting the American Dream; don’t let outside influences ruin your dream!

7. Ask Questions Often

Don’t be afraid to ask difficult questions, receive criticism, and ask even more questions. Record the answers. Presenting questions, theories, and arguing with individuals could be just enough for you to gain valuable insight that wasn’t available before. What do I do if someone tells me to ‘bug off‘? Ask someone else, my friend. Then stop dwelling on the ‘what if’s in life.

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8. Flip Status Quo The Bird

Can you honestly say everything society tells us about righteous living and pro-social interaction is correct? Is success really a measure of how fat our checking and IRA accounts are? If you honestly believe hogwash mass media puts into your mind, you’ll never enjoy the true meaning of freedom, let alone success. Give status quo a nice throat punch and work towards goals that better your situation (called YMMV, or your mileage may vary, in internet ebonics). Forget those actions which are recommended by professionals (many which will admit they’re unhappy) and study the path of those who took chances in order to enjoy success.

9. LOL More Than You SMH

Are you sharing miserable news more than funny memes on social media? What percentage of conversations have you laughing as opposed to mudslinging? Much can be said about our own walks simply by our engagement level in conversations, our social media habits, and our quickness towards judging others as opposed to uplifting them. Reader’s Digest didn’t lie when they chose to develop their 2-3 page joke column entitled Laughter, The Best Medicine. Consistent negativity is often waving a white flag; instead, the more you find yourself laughing out loud with others, the less stress you tend to harbor.

Conclusion

While many people begin down the path toward success unprepared and inevitably fail, an increasing number of individuals from all walks and ages become a burgeoning success in their personal journeys simply by planning instead of expecting, and by listening and learning rather than talking and doubting. Accomplishment is work; success is earned.

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12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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