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9 Ways To Pump Success From The Unsuccessful

9 Ways To Pump Success From The Unsuccessful

Each and every one of us heads down the pathway towards success at some point during our time on Earth. While many of us seemingly fall away from our trails, often due to lack of proper tools or resources, a number have the potential of completing their journeys with enough time to fully embellish their victories. Unfortunately, we find ourselves defeat more often than success.

I’ve outlined the nine most useful ways to pump success back into your life, which is plenty of opportunity to write your own success story. No particular order applies to the following.

1. Spend 30 Days Documenting Your Every Movement

A journal that you record daily events such as encounters, failures, successes and thoughts can assist you to making proper adjustments in future situations. We can always learn more about ourselves if we’re consistently reminded of what we’ve endured thus far. For thirty days, summarize what specifically you’re doing; right or wrong really doesn’t matter as it’s an honest account of your daily activities that matters most.

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2. Find A Guide

Everyone trekking down the illustrious path towards success needs a guide who can be there, via phone or some other method of communication. Your ideal guide has been down your path or one similar to yours and can provide needed guidance should you seek it. Yes, this can be a family member or a friend; the most important aspect of this method is finding someone who’s fallen on his ass and found his way back. Why? He’s doing something (or several somethings) you’re not.

3. Perform A Fearless Moral Inventory

Sounds like an AA/NA step, right? Well, it is.  Except you’ll substitute an addictive substance for your moral, financial, or spiritual bankruptcy. Be honest with yourself; whether you’re a saint or not, write down how so and why. Be specific in notating what led you down this path. The more forthcoming you are with the dictation of your entire life’s failures, the better angle you’ll give yourself when improving your unsuccessful ways. Just remember, friends, a business that doesn’t track inventory will eventually go broke.

4. Budget Downtime Into Your Daily Routine

Humans become weary after long uninterrupted stints of effort. You may not necessarily be physically tired, but you can be emotionally worn out. Therefore, a respectable amount of “me time” gives you the opportunity to recuperate for the next day. It’s an ingenious tool which equates to taking a time-out in football; failure wants to smash through your defense, which means you’ll need to formulate an offensive plan to score a victory.  This allocated time, spent whenever you have the most mental energy, allows you to formulate a more well-rounded offensive strategy based off what’s failed prior to your current day. Downtime, in other words, gives each day’s events an equivocal amount of purpose and sustenance.

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5. Nourish Your Body, Mind and Soul

In order to have the necessary physical or mental energy to carry forth your ‘success mission’, you need some form of nourishment – this can come in the form of foodstuffs, literature, or some type of tribulation that could challenge your mental or physical prowess to advance well beyond your normal capacities. Believe it or not, some of today’s more widely known success coaches, billionaires, and thought leaders not only read often, they meditate and consume foods indicative to clean bodies such as juice diets and a good balance of the recommended daily allowance of nutrients.

6. Know What You Want, Not What Others Want For You

It’s noteworthy to mention how so many times in life we’re consumed with the desires of others. By no means is success defined as what your family pushes you to accomplish; don’t feel obliged to live their fantasy. Don’t walk through life holding someone else’s dreams or unfinished missions, and don’t be fooled into thinking you’re wrong for denying requests to become a doctor, football player, or cheerleader solely based off what your friends or parents couldn’t accomplish themselves. We’ve enough politicians morally bankrupting the American Dream; don’t let outside influences ruin your dream!

7. Ask Questions Often

Don’t be afraid to ask difficult questions, receive criticism, and ask even more questions. Record the answers. Presenting questions, theories, and arguing with individuals could be just enough for you to gain valuable insight that wasn’t available before. What do I do if someone tells me to ‘bug off‘? Ask someone else, my friend. Then stop dwelling on the ‘what if’s in life.

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8. Flip Status Quo The Bird

Can you honestly say everything society tells us about righteous living and pro-social interaction is correct? Is success really a measure of how fat our checking and IRA accounts are? If you honestly believe hogwash mass media puts into your mind, you’ll never enjoy the true meaning of freedom, let alone success. Give status quo a nice throat punch and work towards goals that better your situation (called YMMV, or your mileage may vary, in internet ebonics). Forget those actions which are recommended by professionals (many which will admit they’re unhappy) and study the path of those who took chances in order to enjoy success.

9. LOL More Than You SMH

Are you sharing miserable news more than funny memes on social media? What percentage of conversations have you laughing as opposed to mudslinging? Much can be said about our own walks simply by our engagement level in conversations, our social media habits, and our quickness towards judging others as opposed to uplifting them. Reader’s Digest didn’t lie when they chose to develop their 2-3 page joke column entitled Laughter, The Best Medicine. Consistent negativity is often waving a white flag; instead, the more you find yourself laughing out loud with others, the less stress you tend to harbor.

Conclusion

While many people begin down the path toward success unprepared and inevitably fail, an increasing number of individuals from all walks and ages become a burgeoning success in their personal journeys simply by planning instead of expecting, and by listening and learning rather than talking and doubting. Accomplishment is work; success is earned.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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