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10 Sympathy Cards That Don’t Suck

10 Sympathy Cards That Don’t Suck

Let’s face it.

Sympathy cards suck.

They’re sure no fun to give. They’re torturous to buy. And they’re even worse to receive.

If you suffer from a serious illness (or have in the past), you know that the whole scenario can go badly.

When faced with someone else’s illness, normally intelligent and capable humans turn into awkward, foot-in-mouth, ridiculous-card-giving morons.

Not fun.

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Thankfully, one incredibly talented and empathetic artist has done something about it.

Emily McDowell’s cards have been getting a lot of attention these days. That’s because she knows what needs to be said and how to say it. And she has put her words together with her art on these incredibly beautiful, sometimes humorous and always caring post cards.

Card1

    The friend who gives this knows that scouring the Internet will not relieve the pain, stress or fear that illness brings with it. Just plain care and understanding cure more than Google ever will.

    Card2

      Beautiful and honest. Even though good can often be found on the other side of crisis, it doesn’t take away the pain of the struggle. So why talk about it?

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      Card3

        While trite words aren’t helpful, cruises could be exactly what the doctor ordered!

        Card4

          Most people truly want to say something comforting and supportive. Thankfully, the artist wrote it out very artfully on this card.

          Card5

            Beautiful. This card doesn’t even have to be kept for a time of crisis. Who wouldn’t like to hear these words?

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            Card6

              Illness is lonely. This card could help a well meaning friend who has dropped the ball reconnect gracefully.

              Card7

                This card is proof that there are reasons to celebrate everywhere. A chemo session ending is a perfect excuse to rejoice.

                Card8

                  Just a simple message that says your friend is there to do whatever you need them to do. Beautiful!

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                  Card9

                    Emily says, as a cancer patient, she never connected with jokes about being bald or getting a free boob job. Sometimes, there is nothing helpful to be said.

                    Card10

                      Last but not least, calling out what doesn’t help can sometimes be the best thing a friend can do.

                      Emily McDowell has given a great alternative to substandard sympathy greetings for ill or struggling friends.

                      Who do you know who needs visually pleasing words that actually help?

                      Featured photo credit: The Silent Hospital by Ryan McGuire via imcreator.com

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                      What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                      What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

                      Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

                      They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

                      It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

                      1. They Manage Their Expectations

                      They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

                      2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

                      Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

                      3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

                      Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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                      4. They’re Not Materialistic

                      There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

                      5. They Don’t Dwell

                      They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

                      6. They Care About Themselves First

                      They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

                      They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

                      7. They Enjoy the Little Things

                      They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

                      8. They Can Adapt

                      They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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                      9. They Experiment

                      They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

                      10. They Take Their Time

                      They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

                      11. They Employ Different Perspectives

                      They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

                      12. They Seek to Learn

                      Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

                      13. They Always Have a Plan

                      They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

                      14. They Give Respect to Get It

                      They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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                      15. They Consider Every Opportunity

                      They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

                      16. They Always Seek to Improve

                      Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

                      17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

                      They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

                      18. They Live in the Moment

                      They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

                      You can learn how to do so too: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future

                      19. They Say Yes

                      Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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                      20. They’re Self-Aware

                      Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

                      We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

                      Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

                      Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

                      Final Thoughts

                      The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

                      For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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                      Featured photo credit: Charles Postiaux via unsplash.com

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