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10 Sympathy Cards That Don’t Suck

10 Sympathy Cards That Don’t Suck

Let’s face it.

Sympathy cards suck.

They’re sure no fun to give. They’re torturous to buy. And they’re even worse to receive.

If you suffer from a serious illness (or have in the past), you know that the whole scenario can go badly.

When faced with someone else’s illness, normally intelligent and capable humans turn into awkward, foot-in-mouth, ridiculous-card-giving morons.

Not fun.

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Thankfully, one incredibly talented and empathetic artist has done something about it.

Emily McDowell’s cards have been getting a lot of attention these days. That’s because she knows what needs to be said and how to say it. And she has put her words together with her art on these incredibly beautiful, sometimes humorous and always caring post cards.

Card1

    The friend who gives this knows that scouring the Internet will not relieve the pain, stress or fear that illness brings with it. Just plain care and understanding cure more than Google ever will.

    Card2

      Beautiful and honest. Even though good can often be found on the other side of crisis, it doesn’t take away the pain of the struggle. So why talk about it?

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      Card3

        While trite words aren’t helpful, cruises could be exactly what the doctor ordered!

        Card4

          Most people truly want to say something comforting and supportive. Thankfully, the artist wrote it out very artfully on this card.

          Card5

            Beautiful. This card doesn’t even have to be kept for a time of crisis. Who wouldn’t like to hear these words?

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            Card6

              Illness is lonely. This card could help a well meaning friend who has dropped the ball reconnect gracefully.

              Card7

                This card is proof that there are reasons to celebrate everywhere. A chemo session ending is a perfect excuse to rejoice.

                Card8

                  Just a simple message that says your friend is there to do whatever you need them to do. Beautiful!

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                  Card9

                    Emily says, as a cancer patient, she never connected with jokes about being bald or getting a free boob job. Sometimes, there is nothing helpful to be said.

                    Card10

                      Last but not least, calling out what doesn’t help can sometimes be the best thing a friend can do.

                      Emily McDowell has given a great alternative to substandard sympathy greetings for ill or struggling friends.

                      Who do you know who needs visually pleasing words that actually help?

                      Featured photo credit: The Silent Hospital by Ryan McGuire via imcreator.com

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                      Last Updated on January 21, 2020

                      How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

                      How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

                      If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

                      Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

                      So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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                      1. Listen

                      Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

                      2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

                      Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

                      “Why do you want to do that?”

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                      “What makes you so excited about it?”

                      “How long has that been your dream?”

                      You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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                      3. Encourage

                      This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

                      4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

                      After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

                      5. Dream

                      This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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                      6. Ask How You Can Help

                      Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

                      7. Follow Up

                      Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

                      Final Thoughts

                      By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

                      Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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