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10 Top Habits You Can Exploit To Be Successful

10 Top Habits You Can Exploit To Be Successful

For many of us, our success comes from being able to put in place routines that we don’t even realize that we are doing. From those who are organized and ready to roar from 7AM to the late birds who know how to make the night work for those, our lifestyle are dictated by our patterns that we can adapt to and learn from.

This is one of the hardest things on the planet to do, and we recommend that you consider any of the following if you want to take things to that next level. This will help you understand what kind of routines you need to get into to become a successful, independent person who can hit their own targets and progress;

Focus on the upside

A good unconscious habit that brings success is to see the positive spin on any situation. It can be hard if you are typically a cynical person but you need to look to the positives in any situation otherwise you will simply find it too hard to take decisions and accept people for what they appear to be offering you in life.  It’s a simple enough – but truly effective – choice.

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Show courage in adversity

A vital part of getting things moving in the right direction in your life is actually fairly simple; get into the mindset of putting a brave face on things. This will make a big difference to your overall growth as a person, showing true courage for others.

Trust you’re instinct

We all get that feeling when something good or bad is about to happen – it’s time that you trusted it. If you believe this stuff was for movies and books you need to think again. Intuition is the difference between being ripped off and becoming a millionaire.

Focus on the Haves, not the Have Not’s

A typical mentality is to concentrate on what we don’t have on this planet, not what we do have. If you want to be successful, get into the mindset of accepting – and appreciating – what you do have in this life, not what’s missing.

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Work less, do more

We all believe that putting in the extra hours every day is all that is needed to get where we want to be; this isn’t true. You need to start thinking about how you can work smarter every day, not harder!

Set priority goals

Having a subconscious pull to getting things done is very important in this world; you’ll need to get yourself prepared for the way forward in a simple, effective manner. To do this we recommend setting goals in order of priority so you have a subconscious subject to concentrate on moving forward.

Seek less approval

Seeking praise is for animals in the circus, not successful people. You need to get into the mindset that success is going to be noticed anyway, you don’t need some big wig in a suit to tell you that you have done a good job as you will know that before they even speak. Make it a subconscious habit to recognize your own success, so you aren’t constantly trying to chase approval from others

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Ignore comparisons

When you hear yourself or others getting compared to X and Y situations or people, ignore this. It’s nothing more than some overworked narrative that means nothing except from additional pressure and taking you away from the main objectives that you set. Gets your subconscious mind setting the tone, not the opinions of overpaid and overblown “experts” who barely know the first thing about you or what you are capable of!

Moving on

A key part of becoming a more balanced person mentally is to try and cover the right kind of way to move forward; this includes letting go the people who you like but know they are holding you back. If you want to be successful you need to cut loose from the various distractions in life.

Manage your money

Make a point in your mind to always be in charge of your money instead of letting it be in charge of you. You should be sending your money at your own will, not living your life according to the bank balance. Take the time needed to learn how to manage your money, and make sure that you never go above the means that you can actually afford.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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