In previous posts, I discussed why the so-called “negative” emotions of anger, shame, sadness, and fear are actually good friends and guides. In this post, I am going to close the loop on this project by outlining why joy, a “positive” emotion, can be your enemy. How…
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What Does Your High-Tide Mark Look Like?
My walks with the dogs afford me some daily down-time and 30 minutes or so to clear the mental cobwebs – and sometimes, it is the source of new ideas from the most unlikely places. A recent dogwalk took myself and the dogs down to the beach for some fun and frolic – cabin fever…
Why It’s Important to be Wrong: The Valuable Art of Apology
Have you noticed how obsessed we all are with getting things right? Not only that, but doing the right thing quicker and better than ever before. Everywhere you turn, there are books, magazines and blogs dedicated to making sure we have the secrets of success so we don’t screw up. In the face of…
How to Avoid Fake Growth and a Life of Endless Seeking
Standing before you is a game filled with a complex network of mazes and ladders. When you came into this world this game was already established. All of the rules were set in place. A path was laid out before you, and as you grew, you slowly became indoctrinated into that world, into that game. It was…
How to Deal With Loneliness During Holiday Season
We’re well into the Christmas holiday season once again. This is a time of the year when most people are busy rushing to the malls buying gifts, attending parties, gathering with friends and family, and being merry. Indeed for many, this season is the most wonderful and happiest time of the year. However, not everyone will be…
10 Simple Ways to Find Balance and Get Your Life Back
Life balance seems to be the topic on everyone’s mind of late. We have discovered that maintaining a healthy life balance is not only essential for happiness and well-being; it can be a tremendous boost to your productivity and career or business success as well. A well-balanced person has a far greater ability to focus their…
10 Wise Lessons: What I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger
As I recently celebrated another year of life and am entering a new phase of mid-life (whatever that is) I began to contemplate the lessons that I would pass on to my younger self. Whether you are young or young at heart, it is never too late to change — or incorporate some new (and better)…
What’s Your Brand of Courage?
Starting a business takes courage. You have to do the job of six people at once, deal with income that is variable at best, and non-existent at worst, and face all the other risks that come with walking where most others don’t dare to tread. But that’s old news – anyone who’s been doing this for…
How to Hack Language Learning
There are no two ways about it: learning a foreign language is a lot of work. There is grammar to master, vocabulary words to memorize, and the culture behind the language that adds context. That’s a tall order. For that reason, so few people actually learn a foreign language. It’s demanding — and lots of people…
Reflecting on the Miracle of Life
The world is an amazing place. I am in awe of all the miracles every day. On a special day like today, it’s important to just take a moment and reflect on all the amazing things that have happened in your life so far. To give you a starting point, just think about this: The exact person you are…
How to Flow Your Way to a More Productive Life
Ebb and flow. Contraction and expansion. Highs and lows. It’s all about the cycles of life. The entire course of our life follows this up and down pattern of more and then less. Our days flow this way, each following a pattern of more energy, then less energy, more creativity and periods of greater focus…
What Dental Floss Can Teach Us About Time Management
Flossing your teeth is one of the best examples of the principles of time management. Why? Well, we all know it’s something you should do, yet probably don’t do. After you see your dentist, you vow to do better this time, you stay on it for a few days, maybe, and then let it go again, until…
How to Set Yourself on the “Right” Path
A few years ago, I stumbled on a letter I wrote to my future self when I was 15. I’ll spare you the bad writing but, it was frustrating to see how far I had strayed from the plan. I hadn’t moved to Australia, I wasn’t an architect. I wasn’t rich and I wasn’t travelling…
Mastering a Moment of Purposeful Peace
Our minds are always preoccupied with inconsequential thoughts and pending tasks. We create a facade of constant motion to fool ourselves and others that we have a purpose in life. Instead, it is actually a purgatory of limitless wanting, made up of over shopping, eating, traveling and working. All of it used to alleviate the guilt…
What Pets Can Truly Teach Us Humans
Having been a dog owner since 1979, I can claim with absolute confidence that pets have an uncanny ability to teach us humans certain things better than any person can. If you are willing to allow pets to become part of your personal development team, here are some of the things that they can…