Why I’m Trying to Become a Quitter
April 8 by David Pierce 113 Shares | Productivity

I’m one of those people who’s terrible at saying no. I take on too many projects at once, and spend too much of my time doing things I’d rather not be. I get stuff done, but it’s not always the best I can do, or the best way I can spend my time.
That’s why my newest goal, both as a professional and a person, is to be a quitter.
Being a quitter isn’t being someone who gives up, who doesn’t see important things through to the end. I aspire to be the opposite of those things, and think we all should. The quitter I want to be is someone who gets out when there’s no value to be added, or when that value comes at the expense of something more important.
I want to quit doing things that I’m asked to do, for no other reason than I’m asked to do it. I want to be able to quit something in mid-stream, because I realize there’s nothing good coming from it.
A friend of mine once told me that “I knew I was an adult when I could stop reading a book, even after getting 500 pages into it.” Odd though it sounds, we all tend to do this. We get involved in something, realize we don’t want to be a part of it, but keep trucking through. We say “well, I’ve already invested so much time in this, I might as well stick it out.”
I propose the opposite: quit as often as possible, regardless of project status or time invested. If you’re reading a book, and don’t like it, stop reading. Cut your losses, realize that the smartest thing to do is stop before your losses grow even more, and quit. If you’re working on a project at work that isn’t going anywhere, but you’ve already invested tons of time on it, quit. Take the time gained by quitting the pointless project, and put it toward something of value. Instead of reading an entire book you hate, read 1/2 a bad one and 1/2 a good one. Isn’t that a better use of your time?
If you’re stuck doing something, and don’t really want to do it anymore, step back for a second. Ask if you really have to do this, and what value is being produced from your doing it. Don’t think about the time you’ve put into it, or how much it’s taken over your life. If you don’t want to do it, and don’t have to do it, don’t do it.
By quitting these things, you’ll free up time to do things that actually do create value, for yourself and for others. You’ll have time to read all the great books out there, or at least a couple more. You’ll be able to begin to put your time and effort into the things you’d actually like to do.
Let’s try it together: what are the things you’re doing, that you’re only doing because you’ve been doing them for so long? Quit. Don’t let time spent dictate time you will spend. Let’s learn how to say “no” at the beginning, or in the middle, and free up more of our time to do the things we’d like to be doing, and the things actually worth doing.
Saying no is hard, and admitting a mistaken yes is even harder. But if we do both, we’ll start to make sure that we’re spending our time creating value, rather than aggravating our losses. Let’s be quitters together.
What do you think? What in your life can you quit?
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I actually like the idea of seeing quitting as something positive. I’ve quit several projects because they weren’t worth it in the end. They just couldn’t deliver, partly because I first had to develop more skills or because they were not even good ideas in the first place. I always felt a bit odd about these projects, because I loved every one of them for a while, and then I just walked out on them. I had the same thoughts as in the post when quitting them, but I actually found it hard to keep the positive attitude up, because we’re always told that quitting things is bad and we’re weak people if we don’t go through with things. After a while this odd feeling settles down though, because you actually realize that the pressure of being in something that is doomed anyway lifts from your shoulders.
Great advice David! One of the traits I include in my upcoming post of ‘The 77 Traits of Highly Successful People – Part 5/5′ is Learn to Say No.
I’ve also given my girlfriend the same advice to quit her Japanese Language course because it does not add much value to her life as she doesn’t really need it professionally or personally. It’s just something she thought was good to pick up.
I’d strongly advise everyone to learn to say no to things that don’t add value to your life. Don’t worry about upsetting people for saying no. Highly successful people know how to say no without feeling guilty.
There’s a book which you might want to consider reading – How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty, by Patti Breitman and Connie Hatch.
Cheers~
Mark
Brilliant advise.
So many of the empty mantras and other BS we are inundated with when growing up turn out to be completely wrong. It might not be so much that they are wrong as that they simply turn out to be drastic oversimplifications. Adhering dogmatically to any of these mantras is a recipe for disaster, as life is generally too complicated to be succinctly captured in a phrase or two. Many people never figure this out.
I LOVE this article! I started doing something similar in my own life a few months ago. Following the 80/20 rule, 20% of the things I commit to give me 80% of the total value in my life. On the other side, 80% of activities I’ve made a commitment to only provide 20% value to me.
I began cutting out the 80% of low value activities and focusing on the 20% high value ones. It eliminates a lot of whats been gnawing at me and given me a HUGE lift at the same time. There’s no shame in deciding something just isn’t giving you what you though it would and saying “I quit!”
Thanks again, @LuisRoca
I’ve been quitting things since I graduated from high school. College, quit. 4 jobs since then, quit. Flying lessons, quit (but hope to start again when more cash is available). Volunteer projects, quit. Books, quit. The list goes on and on. People always look down at me for rattling off all of the things that i have quit, but you know what, i’m on a journey and I don’t want to waste any time in getting to my destination, what ever it is (for a job, it is work I enjoy which at a minimum self employment). Great post and great points.
Hi David and Readers,
Saying no is often good, but beware; do not say no too relentlessly.
Things you may not like may be valuable for the future, you might see them as an investment – it will cost you some (time) now, and your gain will be in the future.
Like helping someone with a task might return when you’re in need of aid?
An example following in the book-analogy: I am currently reading a Tom Clancy book – the first one of which I find the start rather dull. However, I know there will be sequels (with likely better introductions) for which this book is required :-)
[...] Why I’m Trying to Become a Quitter. A short version of what Seth Godin said in “The Dip.” Important to cut your losses when you realize nothing good will come of it. [...]
Have you read The Dip by Seth Godin? A lot of very similar concepts. It’s a short/quick read and highly recommended.
Hi David,
Sometimes quitting equals to getting more things done. If we are able to quit tasks that do not provide value (which most of them is) then we will be able to put more of our energy into tasks that provides greater value.
Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger
Good stuff…
I’m a youth speaker and when I talk with students, I challenge them to remember that we all have a capacity in life. There’s only so much we can do, so you have to learn to say no in order to maintain balance in life.
Be smart, be selective, and don’t be afraid to quit.
Great advice! I’m definitely among those who take on too many projects at once. But I’m still trying to figure out which ones I enjoy and which I don’t. Perhaps the first ones to go would be those that I like doing time to time only, but demand far too much commitment (i.e. something that has weekly meetings that I don’t particularly enjoy).
Thanks for the post, and good luck with your quitting. :)
Quit or quit not …there is no try
Sorry, could not resist :)
Very good post.
Steve
I hope readers truly see what this article is about – measuring ROI in everything you do. I am not sure if I would have used the term “quitting” as often as David did, since it in a way detracts from the purpose of the article. But, I can say from my personal experience of running operations for startups in various stages, ability to see when you, project, team, or even company no longer add value in the area it should is crucial to not wasting more of your personal investment in time, effort, money. Too many of us stick around, because of the initial investment, only to go deeper into the hole.
So true. If something isn’t working for you…dump it. It’s a time sink and not worth investing in. Granted, test it out first but if no returns are seen after a measured/agreed amount of time. Dump it and have the balls to defend the decision as well.
Well this is kind of interesting because I started a YES campaign – http://www.i-say-yes.com but I do realize the importance of saying no. Lately I’ve even gotten myself in trouble because I too say yes too often, I am definitely working on setting better boundaries and honoring my time. There is a time and place for both yes and no.
Thank you! I have always had a hard time saying no. My wife and I were watching a movie we didn’t really like and she suggested we stop. I didn’t like the idea, but agreed. I felt much better quiting.
Thanks for the article. I am going to work on being a better quitter.
-Eric
David, this is great advice. I love the line: “Be the type of quitter who is someone who gets out when there’s no value to be added” I’ve always prided myself on being someone who never gives up and who always sees things through, which can be a good thing but it also gets me into a lot of trouble. I can see how this new distinction can really make a fundamental difference to my life.
This is the first time I’ve visited your blog and I’ll definitely be back
Cheers,
Niro
This s almost what the 80/20 is like but with a different approach. I’ve always tried to “keep with it” even when it seemed hard or not. But I’ve learned that there’s better things that could be getting done, if you hate what you’re doing. I think a good thing to learn to how to say NO! It’s easy to say, sure I’ll start on it tomorrow. But one thing after another has a habit of adding up really fast.
Lately I’ve tried to spend 80% of my time doing things that return an 50-90% return. I hate wasting time so I’m all with ya:) Great Post!
Clinton
I really enjoyed this article. So much so, in fact, that I used it as inspiration for my most recent Toastmasters speech. I tried not to plagiarize but I went off the cuff a bit and ended up using your book analogy. I gave you credit in my Youtube description: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4DMXZ22LbVY
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