Spiritual principles of parenting often suggest that children are given to us as one of our prime and most difficult responsibilities. Different religious scriptures clearly outline that children are our trials through which the creator tests our ability to take responsibility and nurture and nourish the sweetest gift that has been given to us. Our children are our responsibility—a prime responsibility which becomes more complicated and tough if we have children with special needs.
Special needs are defined differently, but the most common approach towards special needs define it as the individuals who require support and assistance for disabilities. The support can be medical, mental, and psychological, as well as spiritual. As parents, our roles and responsibilities become more complex because we are the ones who will provide the required support at almost every stage of our child’s development.
Here are some of the guidelines and tips for effective parenting of children with special needs:
- At times, we might feel that as if our lives have been put on hold because fulfilling our child’s needs can become quite cumbersome and irritating. We need to find a purpose in our lives and decide whether it is us who are going to help our child the most, or if someone else will. Once you get clear on this, you gradually start to accept your child’s condition and the kind of support that’s required. Gradually, we therefore become aware of our roles and how we can actually help the child to overcome many obstacles in their life.
- Learn to accept rather than find the solutions first because accepting your child’s condition can put you in a better frame of mind to help you to negotiate better solutions. Acceptance can put us in a courageous situation to face the challenge in more positive manner, and develop an outlook which is both positive in perspective and focused upon developing customized solutions for your needs.
- Find a good pediatrician who can work with your family over a longer period of time to oversee the medical needs of your child. It is important to develop a long-term relationship with the doctor in order to ensure that he or she can understands your individual family requirements, and can help you to find a better combination of people who can assist you in taking care of your child’s needs. Change the pediatrician if you believe they cannot be of any help to you, or may not help you to better coordinate your efforts.
- Parenting children with special needs can also be stressful because we start to wonder what others might think about our situation. This may also involve people showing empathy towards children with special needs. To overcome such guilty moments, it is better if we surround ourselves with supportive people and focus on positive thinking. It is also extremely important if we can take some time out to take care of our own physical needs so that we remain fresh and able enough to fulfill the needs of our children. Hypnosis can also be used as one of the most effective tools to overcome stress related with this aspect of our lives.
- Taking care of children with special needs can be exhaustive and tiring for parents. Finding the required energy and positive attitude to take care of any untimely needs of children should therefore be one of the top priorities. Chakra activation can be one of the top techniques to tap into our body’s own natural energy system to provide you the strength and will to go on to fulfill our child’s needs.
- Getting a good health insurance policy should also be one of your top priorities. Uncertainty associated with our own lives can become a huge obstacle in the care of our children, and in the absence of any alternative support in case of our death, having a good and comprehensive insurance can really help our children’s needs to be take care of. Give special attentions to formalities such as preparing a will and executing power of attorney, as well as health care proxies so that guardian of your children may find it easier to take care of your children in case of any eventuality.
Having faith in our own abilities to successfully meet these challenges and develop as more accommodating parents of children with special needs is what sets us apart from others. Ultimately, it is our children who are going to suffer if we lack the will, energy and stamina to find better solutions to care for them.
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