
Is there a dark cloud over your head? Do you find it hard to get out from under the feeling of “always being behind the eight-ball?” Do you want to see the sun again? Do you want to feel contentment and happiness in your life?
The hustle and bustle of everyday life can really create a dark cloud over (and even around) you. This dark cloud weights you down, it leaves you feeling “crazed” and always behind. This dark cloud can start impacting your health, happiness and relationships.
While I don’t believe that you can eliminate stress from your life completely, I do believe there is a lot more we can do to reduce it. There is not a “one size fits all” solution either — you need to find the strategy that works best for you. Maybe even combine one or more strategies together and make a game of it.
Here are some strategies that I use to help banish my daily stress. Give them a try…I believe you will find them to be very helpful:
- Support Systems. If you’re constantly running on empty, your mind, body, and soul will suffer the repercussions of your tenacity. There’s no shame in asking for a helping hand. Sometimes, you’ll be able lean on a spouse, coworker, or friend, but other times you may have to hire help. Start with having a discussion with your partner or family and see if you can brainstorm a way to share the chores around the house. Even just taking turns cooking dinner is helpful.
- Self Care. What do you enjoy doing? Knitting, relaxing in a bubble bath, drawing, lounging in bed watching reruns of Grey’s Anatomy? Indulge yourself in your favorite restful activity a few times each week. Carving out a few hours each weekend to indulge in your favorite lazy activity. Choose at least one weeknight to relax after work. Start with a walk outside. I know you might need your sunglasses because you have been under that dark cloud for so long. But trust me — there is sunshine, fresh air, beautiful things to look at out there!
- Simplify life. Simplify your routines, your commitments, your information intake, your cluttered rooms, and have less stress as a result. Identify those things that are most important in your life…and then get rid of the rest. It may not be quite that easy, but you can certainly start somewhere with this idea. Think of just one thing that has been bothering you that you can remove and do it. Once you start with one, you will see a ray of sunlight.
- Meditation. With meditation we can learn to transform our minds from chaos to calm. And it is really not as hard as you might think. My favourite meditation is a “Breathing Meditation”. It is simple and you can do it anywhere. Sit in any comfortable position, with your eyes partially closed. Now breathe. Just breathe normally through your nose. Notice how your body moves and what the air feels like. If your mind wanders, just bring it back to your breath. Even just practicing this for two minutes a day will add another ray of sunlight. (If you’re looking for a more in-depth look at meditation, check out Lifehack’s Mindfulness Meditation Mini Guide.)
Sometime stress seems like it is a normal part of life, but it doesn’t have to be that way if you’re willing to put your sanity and happiness first. Most of the time there’s a simple fix to the challenges that are causing you stress. Simply adjust the way you perceive the issues and how you address them.
Small simple steps on a daily basis will create a huge momentum in your life and you will feel the dark clouds life away and the warm breath of the sunshine on your skin.
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I see myself in the first three strategies and would really like to see myself in the fourth (meditation). This is a great reminder that meditation doesn’t need to be an all day or hours long process. It can be as simple as a few minutes at a random time during the day when energy needs to be replenished or when calm needs to be achieved.
I really enjoyed this Lori.
Thanks Joel!
Some good suggestions Lori, I would use them all at different stages. So important to not ignore it.
Thanks Ciara
Hey Lori, some great ideas here! I love the idea of simplifying – it’s so refreshing that I feel less stress even as I read about it!
I love it as well… now if I could just get it to happen in my closet :-)
Great tips. While I can’t meditate, I would agree with the tips in general. Stress is inevitable, and so it becomes important to manage it.
interesting… you journal… that is meditation in my books! there are so many different ways to meditate, you can take the simplest thing such as looking at a flower for 5 minutes and you have been meditating. don’t let the traditional “meditation” keep you stuck thinking you can’t meditate. Go for a walk, go write a poem, go look at a leaf….
Great strategies, Lori. The one I have the most trouble with is the first – asking your support system for help. I always feel like I should handle my stress myself, but you’re right – there’s no shame in asking for a helping hand! The people who love you are happy to help you regain sanity. Thanks for the reminder. Peace!
Definitely and I am sure there are times that we can help them as well… that is what friends and family is for
Love this post, Lori – Stress is something we all need help with. Thank you.
reminders every day to keep us taking care of ourselves
Rest, rest, rest, and rest.
I keep coming back to these four simple letters.
simple letters to write…. not so easy to do though! Everyday I must remind myself
Four very important components to less stress in life! Thanks for the reminder. And I would add in getting enough sleep and some regular exercise as well.
Most definitely! Exercise is huge for me!
Some great tips Lori. I found myself nodding and then reminded myself that I need to actually DO these things rather than just think they are a great idea. I love the serenity that regular meditation gives to your life.
so true! that is why I keep writing and teaching it…so that I continue to keep it a high priority in my life
What a great post – thank you. I have implemented all of these tips during various times in my life and found them all to work wonderfully. I have focused on “self love” this year and it really makes a difference in my life. I can no to many things that are draining, negative, etc. Plus…as Sara commented – enough sleep!!!!!
self love and self care are very important… most women forget about it!
wonderful post !!!
Thanks Ani!
I am under stress too about what people think about me because everytime I find a positive person I think I hit with that person never lasts for long and I wind up feeling like I am in the dumps.
I wonder if I am coming across as too needy when I try to emply relationships? Does anybody know what the secret is to ask for help but not make them feel like you’re using them thus making them too uncomfortable to be around you?
Is it normal when a person that doesn’t want to be around you to start making excuses instead of telling you why they don’t wan to be around you?
I am sorry if I sound like a newbie but I have Asbergers and do not feel body language very well so I am always confused and worried about myself because when I do open up I think i tend to cling on to people in a desperate way though maybe my loudness scares them off.
Gosh there are SO many possibilites it makes my head spin! *Head starts spinning around and around making the people reading this feel dizzy*
Edit: I had it in paragraphs such as paragraph 1 ended at the word ,You, but when I clicked ,Post As, it came out all chopped up. :(
Sorry but I do not know English very well even though I’ve taken lessons I just don’t get it. :( I understand math a lot better then English.