February 1st, 2007 in Featured, Lifehack, Management

Yes, No, or Maybe…?

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Always remember that you are at least 50% smarter than computers. Computers know ‘yes’ and ‘no,’ but we know ‘maybe.’” – John Pironti

When it comes to where you direct your energy, it involves just three simple answers – yes, no, or maybe. Think about it. Every decision you make – voluntary or otherwise, involves a “yes,” a “no,” or a “maybe.” Okay, common sense, right?

But are you considering those answers before you make a decision?

A lot of people say “yes” to something without really thinking it through. The same goes for those saying “no.” If you are the type who always tends to want to jump in and help, you probably blurt out a “yes” before you think through what the request entails. If you prefer to stick to your own tasks, you may say “no” without really judging what’s being asked.

Are you a Yes Person, a No Person, or do you say “maybe”…?

When it comes to productivity and your own personal development, there are pros and cons to both yes and no answers. Adrian posted an excellent view of why saying “yes” more often can be beneficial, and saying “no” may help you take back your time. People who always say “yes” may get taken advantage of. Those who always say “no,” may be considered selfish or not helpful. Neither one is bad, if you make sure you are consciously directing where you put your time and effort. And that’s the key, consciously

The third path

I had a mentor years ago who said always answer with a “maybe” response. It could be “hmm…let me think that over,” or “that might work, let me check my schedule.” Going with a “maybe” gives you time to think about what the request actually involves, and whether you want to put your energy towards it.

Now some of you might be thinking “duh, everyone does that.” The thing is, most don’t. If you do, wonderful, you’ve got a good handle to being consciously aware of where you direct your energy. But many people struggle with this.

So next time you’re put on the spot, instead of going with your usual “yes” or “no” answer, use a “maybe.” The take some time to mull over the choice. It’s your time and energy. Using it in a way that can both benefit you and help others is a nice balance to achieve.

What do think – yes, no, or maybe…?

Tony D. Clark writes, draws cartoons, designs software and websites, and spends a lot of time talking others into working from home, being creative, and doing what they love. His blog Success from the Nest helps people to design and run a home-based business that is in line with their unique gifts, values, personality, and world-view – all served up with humor and cartoons.

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    • Leigh says on February 1st, 2007 at 9:44 am

      I have been a maybe-er from way back. I often find that I say maybe but the person I am talking to hears yes or no depending on the answer they wanted to hear (maybe they don’t consider maybe an option) I learned to finish up my “maybe” answer with I’ll let you know” just to make it clear that my answer was not yes or no.
      I agree with you – answering conciously is the key.

    • vopmms says on February 1st, 2007 at 2:32 pm

      I totally disagree with this article. I hate it when someone gives me a “maybe”. I think it’s the easy way out and shows that
      he/she is indecisive. Make up your mind and either say “yes” or “no”. Be considerate to the person that is asking you, he/she probably needs to make plans based on your decision, a “maybe” will not help, I know I would want my friends or coworkers to give me a “yes” or “no” instead of a “maybe”.

    • Tony D. Clark says on February 1st, 2007 at 2:43 pm

      Leigh – It sounds like you have a good handle on how you choose to allot your time and energy.

      vopmms – You make a good point – being wishy-washy is a frustration too. The point is to make a decision, just do so consciously, not as a knee-jerk response. If that means taking time to think it over, then do so. But DO make a decision and be respectful of the one asking.

    • vopmms says on February 1st, 2007 at 3:22 pm

      I agree with you Tony. Sorry if i didn’t clearly see your point the first time.

    • Matthew Cornell says on February 4th, 2007 at 4:26 pm

      Nice! You might enjoy this article: “Yes’ are great, nos are great, maybes will kill you” – http://www.escapefromcubiclena.....reat_.html

    • Kate says on February 13th, 2007 at 3:56 pm

      Tony and vopmms,
      I find that giving a time with the maybe helps.
      “That could work. May I get back to you at the end of the day?”
      It also gives them some power back, and the opportunity to say, “I really need to know by three.”

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