Top 10 Advantages of Introvert

Jaco says on September 24th, 2005 at 5:55 am

there may be some good qualities but they hardly compensate for the suffering

Leon says on September 24th, 2005 at 11:17 am

@Jaco: Can you elaborate? What sort of suffering are you referring to?

Divya Narayan says on June 19th, 2006 at 11:48 am

Well, I was shy AND introverted when I was a kid, but now I’m getting rid of my shyness a lot. Now, it’s more of being an introvert for me. I’m a typical introvert. I do not go and start a conversation myself with a stranger. My circle of friends is pretty limited and I do not go beyond that. But then, I do have this fear of meeting new people whom I have never seen or heard before in my life as I always feel that whenever I meet a person, I’ll be making a total fool of myself by blabbing rubbish in front of him/her. For instance, I’ll be starting college in a few weeks’ time and I’m horribly wrecked as I don’t know how I’m going to make new friends because all my old friends will be in different colleges. But I know one thing how people can come to me and talk to me. I’m quite good at academics. So, if they want some help from me (& I never say no to anybody asking for help), we can get engaged in a conversation and it’ll all work out fine in the end.

Intorvert says on August 21st, 2006 at 8:34 am

I’m an introvert. I think Gravtar Icon’s right: there may be some good qualities but they hardly compensate for the suffering. If you are an introvert and you have suffered you shall agree with this.

Another Introvert says on April 17th, 2007 at 11:45 pm

What suffering? In my experience, most of it’s a symptom of low self-esteem, not necessarily of being an introvert.

Michelle says on April 18th, 2007 at 8:00 am

As an introvert and a shy child (now as an adult when I say I am shy people can’t believe it) life was difficult and to some degree still is. That said, introverts are not ‘doomed’ to being miserable. We can either accept our limitations without dwelling on them or we can actively seek to overcome them. Overcoming them will not be easy but no one is ever guaranteed an easy life.

dharmendra says on May 16th, 2007 at 8:32 am

i m dharmendra 25 year old pursuing my computer education from india and i have been facing social phobia since my childhood. i m very much interested in sex and fatasy to have sex with my sister sometimes.later i repent and i musterbate to satisfy. is thinking about sex is normal in my age?

matt says on August 8th, 2007 at 11:23 pm

dharmendra. yes, it’s normal to think about sex at any age. thinking about it with your sister, however is strange. sounds like you need a man.

archie says on June 12th, 2008 at 2:36 am

hi am an introvert and i love the kinds of things i get to do, at first people at campus called me nerd and i felt sidelined but now am loving it because it is good to be smart, analytical and observant-it is awesome too being a nerd!

toothy says on July 18th, 2008 at 2:02 am

If you are an introvert, you will eventually end up in a closed social environment which is dominated by stupid, obnoxious, insecure, popular extroverts who will kick your ass and never show you a wiff of mercy. That’s how the world works. To be successful, you don’t need talent– you need friends.

But if you’re an extrovert, you’ll probably be weak and insecure on the inside, and always hiding it; using your popularity as a crutch to hide from your true self. So you’re screwed either way.

CD says on July 24th, 2008 at 2:30 am

I am a little bit introverted myself and married to an introvert. It’s often lonely being with him. He has a rich thought life, like most introverts but is not all that responsive and engaging. What suffers most from his introversion is our communication (he’s often defensive, condescending, argumentative and combative and our sex life. He wants me to initiate more often but when I do, his response is quite lackluster and it’s boring and humiliating. A word to the introverted men out there: when it comes to sex, we women are usually more reactive than active and require more initiation from you. But when we do initiate, please react! We can’t read your minds.

Random introvert says on October 7th, 2008 at 2:16 am

Im a pretty much very introvert person… Usually, I dont speak up much though im not shy to speak up… but often i would speak up more when im in msn, forums or online games. Sometimes, the male introvert wants to speak up but he lacks of a bit of courage to speak his mind. so, CD, the only thing i can say is be more patient and spend more time with him so that he will open up to you more easily…

dave says on January 25th, 2009 at 8:36 am

erm to the person who masturbates over their sister i would talk to a professional.

Also i am supposed to be introverted and yes there are disadantages such as in my case absolute lck of motivation to talk with others, but you absolutely have to combat this.

The things i do are keep extraverts for company, their way of communicating does rub off on you especially if you try to absorb things like body language and intonation it makes anything you say seem more agreeable and flowing to toher people.

Another thing i do is actively seek to take down and usurp extraverts whom attempt to dominate any groups i am in, not by talking a lot all the time cos that dont work, simply make comments whenever you can and if they talk over you immediatly lay into them and dont stop until you are satified you have won the argument(should be easy to win as you are in the right form the start), and then pick them up on it every time they do it, make sure whenever you talk they shut up and dont try to talk over them so they cant do the same.

These may seem a bit like battle tactics as opposed to ways to overcome difficulties but arguing and overcoming extraverts really is a superb confidance booster and people become a bit more accepting towards you if you aren’t afraid to shut them up.

ankindian007 says on July 5th, 2009 at 1:58 am

Hello … I am also an introvert or may be i feel ….. what confusion i have got is that I fear much and i got hi ego thing also, hence what i wish to know is that weather introvert === fear of ego getting hurt…. i wish to know is this introvertness which is from birth or is it my tendency to get in fearful state making me conversation avoiding person. Hence, i wish to know the distinction to know what thing i have to change , my fear/ego hurting or my introvert nature….

…… ne ways thanks for this nice forum

ankindian007 says on July 5th, 2009 at 2:32 am

Well let me tell more ….. like if i get into conversation with extrovert friends mostly they kid with me with stupid discussions and bantering ….. the only way i get rid of it behaving as a coy and pretend to make them feel that yes they won and that they are the best and then the bantering stops … U may be thinking why i do talk … the thing is i good at studies and when the discourse is serious they do listen to me … and also i feel that I have to increase the capability to face such people ….. i do have to drink the low esteem poison (though i am an egoist i feel so) and make myself understand that the ones who are kidding with me are just doing for fun and that they dont want harm of me and are friends (which they are), so thats why i don’t leave them …. one has to socialize in todays world and the problem is with me not the ones who are kidding coz they just kidding nothing more … and they kid coz they know i wont hit them back … as i just cant … i feel hitting back is really low level thing & a total short term great feeling which all these extroverts feel ….. more over if i hit back i become the center of attraction and i hate it … SO ITS LIKE THAT … hope u getting my feelings …

azzy says on July 17th, 2009 at 12:56 pm

I’m proud to be an introvert, lol
After finding out that my personality is a normal thing, I just tend to feel comfortable about myself ;->

to the guy above there…u need a therapist…theRAPIST, get it? LOL

natasha says on October 16th, 2009 at 4:58 pm

i dont noe wedr being an introvert is good or bad..m a big introvert myself..i mn i lov tokin 2 ppl n evrything bt i jus cant initiate it..n i dont think d so called “extroverts” tok sense..i mn according 2 freud most of em r just ppl who r fixated at **** stage o dr growin up..de just go on blabbering nonsensical things non stop n ppl tend liking em mor den de lyk u..i mn kya duniya pagal hai..i mn if de hav brain duh!!! n ppl tak no offense..just frustration..

okay A DIFFERENT ANGLE..u noe wat..most of ma frenz r extroverts n i lov dre company..de inspire me 2 do things which i really wana do bt dont coz o ma dumb introversion..i mn eventually i m d one who s happy doin stuff..

can someone teme d difference between shyness n introversion ppl??????????

Anand says on December 28th, 2009 at 1:17 pm

Dear natasha,

Here is the answer to your qn,
Shy : Really want to talk & meet people but can’t because of some limited believes they have.
Introvert : They don’t feel urge to talk with people, but if they want, they don’t have any problem with talking or meeting people.