There is evidence that shows that by keeping yourself engaged in things that you enjoy can actually increase your self-confidence and true worth. If you are doing things that you enjoy and are with people who are absorbing, life will tend to be more fulfilling as an individual.
If you already do not know what enthralls you, try and find out more about yourself. Try out new activities and you will finally discover something that you have a passion for. There are various things that you can explore. Painting, reading, music, coaching, swimming, aerobics, handicraft, pottery, bead designs, scrapbook making are just some of them that comes to mind immediately.
Don’t ignore your own needs. Try and pamper yourself with giving these positive activities as much importance as a business appointment or an appointment to the pediatrician.
Just as engrossing yourself in passion-filled activities can be rewarding to your self-worth, so can positive people. People who praise you for your efforts and achievements, accept you for what you are, motivate you by positive remarks and elevate your moods are some of the people you should look out for. Spending time with such people can ensure that you start to appreciate what you yourself are capable of.
To give you an example of engaging people consider this incident. When a colleague of mine called up his supervisor to explain how he had was dreading the thought of getting back to work after a vacation, the reply was not a ‘stop whining and get back command’, but something totally unexpected and pleasant. He was told that his feelings show that he had a great time on his vacation and that he should plan to do it again sometime.
Positive people can turn around a seemingly negative thought into a positive one just because they have so much positive energy around them. Their own self-confidence and good nature ensure that everyone in and around them receive a rub off.
So don’t wait for the next time that you feel low to think of what to do to pamper yourself. Make it a part of your life to include engrossing activities and seek out positive people to spend time with to ensure that you emerge as a winner yourself.
Vishal P. Rao runs the Work at Home Forum, an online community of those who work from home.