A key technique for staying calm during an argument
April 17 by Leon Ho | Lifestyle, Uncategorized
When you are stress, there are chances that you may lose your calmness and become depress about the situation you are in. Adam Khan has written a short article that give you a key on ease your strain of the moment. Here is the excellent example that he used:
… When Abraham Lincoln was in the White House, he experienced stress, and that is an understatement if I’ve ever made one! Soldiers were getting slaughtered by the tens of thousands and Lincoln was the one sending them to their tragic deaths. He was a deeply empathetic man, so this tremendous slaughter caused him immense despair and sadness and pain. But it needed to be done, and decisions needed to be made every day. To keep himself calm enough to deal with it, he often said to himself, this too shall pass. He used this phrase as a kind of mantra. He was able to maintain his rationality and carry out his duties at a crucial time in history — largely by reminding himself again and again that whatever is happening is temporary…
A key technique for staying calm during an argument – [YouMe Works Publications]
Nice article.
I don’t know if this is can be used as a “technique to stay calm during an argument”. If it’s an argument that requires arranging thoughts in a logical manner, I fail to see just how chanting “this too shall pass” will help.
Not to be argumentative here Fred, but I disagree with you. It IS a technique. The author’s premise here is that when an argument occurs, all logic flies out the window. Parties will believe what they want to believe, so there’s no place for logic. If you want logic, go tell it to politicians. I rather like Abraham Lincoln’s technique.
I’ll jump in supporting JC. I think that there are times that you just have to say “This too shall pass.” (Tom Cruise said something a little more appropriate in “Risky Business” but this appears to be too nice a place to use the “F-word.”)
Right now, I’m in a very stressful situation, where I’d bet my life that I’m just a little bit smarter and capable than those that are supposed to be my managers/supervisors. I’ve been screwed over in a re-dis-organization and I’m trying to figure out what to do. I have to confront someone about it. My biggest problem is that I know my boss will be getting all red in the face and upset when I question what he’s been part of. Well, I guess I’ll have to let you all know how it turns out tomorrow when I call him on a pretty crappy deal.
See you on the high ground!
MajorDad1984
Well, to each his own, I guess. I think the connection between an argument and chanting an affirmation (which this is) is tenuous, at best.
I can understand this becoming useful when one needs to readjust one’s attitude for perspective, but during an argument?
It also does not follow that “all logic flies out the window” once an argument begins. In fact, it’s a fallacy: you’re drawing conclusions from insufficient data. I know many people who negotiate and win arguments precisely because they find the logic in the situation regardless of emotion.
In fact, that is what we should strive for; this is an argument for the fact that simply seeking the logical during an argument actually helps calm you because you’re thinking and not emoting.
If your contention that there’s no place for logic in arguments, one wonders, JC, how any arguments ever get resolved at all?
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