9 Tips in Life that Lead to Happiness

neon says on November 9th, 2005 at 3:26 am

This is what helps me. I am just happy when I consciously choose so. I think we have a big mental power to choose our feelings. Whenever I realise I have a bad mood, I tell myself to not spend any minute of my life in this emotional state and I decide to be strong and start to be happy and enjoy the life to the fullest. It’s similar as to start smiling even if you don’t want to and eventually it will really make you smile naturally.

Adam says on November 9th, 2005 at 5:14 pm

Easily the best book I’ve read on this subject is Authentic Happiness by Martin Seligman (former President of the American Psychological Association). This book is the culmination of extensive research and study of the impact of what he calls Positive Psychology.

One of his foundational principles (which seems to be quite overlooked by this list) is the powerful and enduring positive effect of selfless service of others.

It seems, based on his studies, that if we seek our own happiness, we will not find it. Stating that we deserve it will only frustrate us more.

Only if we habitually seek the genuine happiness of others will we find “authentic” and lasting happiness (as opposed to synthetic and short-lived happiness, something most of us are familiar with).

I can vouch for the practical truth of his ideas as I’ve found them to be quite accurate in my own life.

IDsux says on November 9th, 2005 at 6:41 pm

you might be enlightened by: The Pursuit of Emptyness by John Perry Barlow

Zak says on November 9th, 2005 at 11:13 pm

Adam has it totally right:

It seems, based on his studies, that if we seek our own happiness, we will not find it. Stating that we deserve it will only frustrate us more.

Only if we habitually seek the genuine happiness of others will we find “authentic” and lasting happiness (as opposed to synthetic and short-lived happiness, something most of us are familiar with).

I say the exact same thing in a long-winded post here:

http://www.biocom-jp.com/ee/tn.....ments/321/

The Barrister says on November 10th, 2005 at 12:41 am

The happiest people I know are those with a true love for God. It affects everything they do – their jobs, their families, their social lives. They aren’t rich, but they give what they have to the poor (time and money). They don’t live in the biggest and best houses, but they share what they have, gladly. They aren’t trapped by a life spent acquiring things in the the search for happiness. All the other things, while important, do not themselves lead to true happiness.

Just a thought. Feel free to flame me if it will make you feel better.

pickupjojo says on November 10th, 2005 at 1:43 am

Another tip : Don’t stay always on your computer. ;-)

Socrata says on November 10th, 2005 at 2:26 am

One of my college roommates asked herself each night before sleep “Am I happy?”. She mostly miserable.
Here is what our wise Ethical Culture leader says on the subject: The Pursuit of Happiness and Its Achievement

The Barrister says on November 10th, 2005 at 2:37 am

In the article referenced in comment 16, the humanist author of the article wrote “The question I pose is what is happiness and how is it to be attained? It seems an odd fact of the human condition that happiness is universally desired, but it seems so seldom to be truly found.”

Indeed.

I guess it depends on who is doing the looking (and who is doing the writing on the subject).

The argument that “personal fulfillment” leads to happiness is a betrayed by our own society. So it goes.

Kartik Agaram says on November 10th, 2005 at 9:19 am

“‘Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness.’ – Chuang-Tzu (350 B.C.)

Chuang-Tzu had it right. No more need be said. But such is human nature that the more succinctly we state the truth, the better we become at ignoring it. So, despite the completeness of the above homily, I’ll proceed, hoping that my volume may insinuate into your worldview what Chuang-Tzu’s brevity might not.

Here’s what I believe. I believe that extolling the pursuit of happiness was a toxic stupidity entirely unworthy of my greatest American hero, Thomas Jefferson. Indeed, it is a poison that sickens our culture more wretchedly every nanosecond. I wish he’d never said it.”

http://www.eff.org/Misc/Public.....yness.html

Matt says on November 10th, 2005 at 10:13 am

If you are really seeking happiness, check out Buddhism (I recommend books by the Dalai Lama or Thich Nhat Hanh). In most Western interpretations, it’s not so much a religion as a science devoted to happiness. Buddhism makes an art out of attaining happiness, and shows that it’s always within you, at your disposal… no need to do or get anything, and provides very specific mental techniques you can use to cultivate this happiness.

Jack Black says on November 10th, 2005 at 11:14 pm

Hello,

“You’re mood” should be “Your mood”

Regards,

Jack

(You can erase this comment afterwards) ;-)

ericatruth says on November 12th, 2005 at 6:56 am

yes, but i need 10. can you come up with another/

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lorenzo rafael says on November 13th, 2005 at 2:50 pm

I’ve been on this earth for some time now, long enough to realize that suffering and happiness are two sides of the same coin. If you’re a sensible person, well, you can get hurt! but that shouldn’t stop you from feeling the beauty of it all, there is no point in struggling. Sometimes the harder we try to be happy (and avoid suffering) the more difficult it becomes. True abundance comes from enjoying life (as is) and not in how much we can own. Follow the golden rule: don’t do to others what you don’t want for yourself, also respect life of other beings. Remember the law of cause and effect for that matter.

Sujata says on November 23rd, 2005 at 2:56 pm

Well, I always believe that u’ll be happy when u know how to appreciate. Why people keep on living sad, cause they don’t appreciate with what they’ve. Umm, i agree the tips of getting yourself with happy people. That’s pretty good. And thanks for sharing this for us. =)

MC says on December 29th, 2005 at 2:26 pm

“Happiness comes to those who seek it” (my quote).

It really all come down to yourself what makes you happy. I don’t think any specific list will apply to anyone. Happiness really is appreciating everything around you, friends, family,and not get so wrapped up in other things like money, people who cut you off in the street, etc. It’s really an attitude that you have you train yourself to be in. Think of the positives in your life and you will be happy. That’s as simple and as complicated as you make it.

Walter Muggleswurth III says on February 25th, 2006 at 12:45 pm

True happiness emanates from the spiritual seeker who is blissfully in search of the Ultimate Extacy: What is termed in Galvanist Theology as Intergalactic Supreme Awareness. This is a trancendental omnipotent knowledge not available in bookstores. The first step is to keep in mind constantly that this universe is Infinite as one thinks, daydreams, uses the toilet, among other things. Have a nice day, and be sure to get some healthy sexual activities in you heart, mind and body.

williams says on March 14th, 2006 at 10:02 am

Life is what we live and there are lot of happiness and sadness to come. And we have to face all these with courage. So all you need to have in your life is courage. So be healthy, both mentally and physically to be happy.

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xiangge says on July 26th, 2006 at 1:25 am

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Fatimah Musa says on August 17th, 2006 at 11:34 am

Many people are unhappy becuase they focus on those things that make them feel miserable. They look at what they don’t and can’t have. They remember their losses, of the people that have hurt them and what they have missed out.

Once a person makes a decision to feel happy most of the time , her focus will move toward things that will bring her joy.

perina says on August 30th, 2006 at 4:14 am

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George Ortega says on September 5th, 2006 at 12:25 am

Excellent advice! You might want to add one more tip; Value Happiness.

When we realize that happiness is what we really want, we make it a very important goal for ourselves and others. Back in 2003, I created the world’s first and only TV program entirely about happiness, The Happiness Show, to help our world better understand that happiness is, as Aristotle said, the Highest Good. Check out the show’s website to view our over 100 free video episodes.

Happiness relates to health which is the beauty of both The Body and The Mind says on September 5th, 2006 at 2:13 am

Whenever the chips are down or we are unable to achieve our target, we feel unhappy and our state of mood takes a negative turn.
We have to remember that happiness and sadness are the two sides of the same coin. So, what I feel that whenever
you are in a bad mood, you should engage yourself in your hobby activities like reading books, go to jim, gardening etc.
Engaging yourself in your hobby activity relaxes your mind and this helps to get more focused on your target. What I believe
is that happiness relates to health which is the beauty of both The Body and The Mind.

Ego Fatigo says on October 5th, 2006 at 4:28 am

In short, then, happiness is a state of mind! :-)

vincent says on December 7th, 2006 at 11:04 pm

“If you run after things, nothing will come to you. Let things run after you.
The sea never sends an invitation to the rivers. That’s why they run to the sea.
The sea is content. It doesn’t want anything.
That’s the secret in life.”

Xeena says on December 28th, 2006 at 12:43 pm

THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING!
Some great advice in these tips to happiness. I would say tried and tested successful.
Someone recenly sent me good wishes…may your dreams and wishes come true… and I thought to myself,I am content with all that I have… being content brings much peace and happiness.

“A rich person is not who has the most but one who needs the least”
from : http://www.theinterviewwithgod.com

Liara Covert says on January 3rd, 2007 at 2:17 am

I sense happiness is a feeling we can each experience within ourselves and all around us, providing we choose to discover it. Happiness begins in the form of an attitude or a will to experience joy. It connects the mind, body and soul and can enable you to feel more connected to things outside yourself.

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Excellent article. I need to practice on #9.

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Great Tips – particularly like the take time to consider being happy.

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"Jack" Arianto says on July 11th, 2007 at 11:17 pm

I start with number #5, and it works.

weight loss says on September 26th, 2007 at 4:22 pm

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tony says on October 1st, 2007 at 9:18 am

Some nuggets of gold from teachers such as Dr. Wayne Dyer and other teachers:

“Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously”

“Happiness is a choice”

“Happiness comes from giving and serving rather than receiving and being served”

Finally, from Bruce Almighty..when God (played by Morgan Freeman) said “How Many People Have You Helped?…(since you had your powers)”.

Place your attention on these words and you can choose to be of service to others today.

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ero says on January 16th, 2008 at 9:40 pm

i have a scientific diffrent view on happyness..

the brain works like a award system, when you do something you like (sex, food) you get awarded with a nice feeling.. thats all it, but one thing is real happyness is inner not outer, you have to be independent on outer happyness to be strong

braincells are like genes.. they multiply everyone has billions of them
.. so you have to ask your self when i multiply my cells do i multiply it in good or bad cells and let them work for you

SizeGenetics says on February 5th, 2008 at 4:48 pm

I completely agree…….

Just me says on February 15th, 2008 at 6:41 pm

Hey,people ! It’s great!.. I did all this 9 tipes and now I’m the happiest person ever..Believe me..you’ll have a success if you try ; )

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reem says on June 26th, 2008 at 5:27 pm

Real happiness and peace can be found in submitting to the commands of the Creator and the Sustainer of this world. God has said in the Quran:

Truly, in remembering God do hearts find rest. (Quran, 13:28)

On the other hand, the one who turns away from the Quran will have a life of hardship in this world. God has said:

But whoever turns away from the Quran,he will have a hard life, and We will raise him up blind on the Day of Judgment. (Quran, 20:124)

This may explain why some people commit suicide while they enjoy the material comfort money can buy. For example, look at Cat Stevens (now Yusuf Islam), formerly a famous pop singer who used to earn sometimes more than $150,000 a night. After he converted to Islam, he found true happiness and peace, which he had not found in material success.

http://www.Islam-guide.com

מוטי ויסברוט says on August 16th, 2008 at 8:55 am

The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time .

Life’s a journey, not a destination.

Pile up too many tomorrows and you’ll find that you’ve collected nothing but a bunch of empty yesterdays.

If you examine carefully your thoughts he will be surprised to find how much he lives in the future. Your well-being is always ahead.

When yourare anxious it is because you are living in the future. When you are depressed it is because you are living in the past .

This is the life you really want ?

Sincerely ,
Moti Weisbrot
bloghappiness@gmail.com

מוטי ויסברוט

School says on August 21st, 2008 at 7:46 pm

Happy count 139 including Unhappy and happiness and unhappiness but 143 inucluding i said this now. lol

Remez Sasson says on September 10th, 2008 at 4:34 am

When life is comfortable you feel happy.

When you have a good job that pays well you feel happy.

When you are in love you feel happy.

When your plans succeed, you get promoted, lose weight or achieve a goal you feel happy.

In these cases, external events are the cause of happiness. There is a temporary sense of relief, of inner peace, of freedom from anxieties, worries or nagging thoughts, but this mental state is often dimmed after a while, when the emotions settle down and you are confronted with new tasks, desires or difficulties.

If you train yourself to experience happiness, and follow the tips suggested in this article, your state of mind will be less affected by external causes, and you will be able to experience happiness more often, and for longer periods. You can develop the “happiness habit”.

Positive thinking, motivation, being with positive people, reading inspiring literature or practicing meditation, all awaken happiness.

Actually, true happiness comes from within. It is embedded in your Spirit. The mind, with its thoughts, worries, fears and expectations, often hides this happiness. If you pay attention to your mind and thoughts when happy, you will discover the your mind is calm and peaceful, without disturbing and restless thoughts. This means that if you are able to maintain peace of mind, to free your mind from restless thinking, you will experience happiness more often. Inner peace and happiness are companions, and when one appears, the other appears too.

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Grey says on October 17th, 2008 at 7:29 pm

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positive thinker says on December 9th, 2008 at 2:59 pm

Great article. You always have to focus on the positive and your qualities instead of dwelling on your weaknesses. And that is so true that a sense of humor can make miracles.
Life is a wonderful journey. Enjoy it my friend.

Acne MD says on February 25th, 2009 at 11:26 am

Wow, those are some amazing points and could partly explain why I’m sick at the moment and not feeling too great. Thank you, that helped to cheer me up.

Motivational says on March 15th, 2009 at 4:15 am

Wanna be miserable? Surround yourself with people who hate their lives. But who wants to be miserable? Therefore, be careful of who you choose to hang around with. Happy people will influence you to be happy. Great Post.

Astrid Lee says on March 30th, 2009 at 12:13 am

I agree with #5 in particular. Or rather, I’d substitute ‘happy’ with ‘gratefulness’.

As well, as a Reiki Master I work a lot with my clients and students on creative visualization and affirmations, and I find that works brilliantly.

sajeda says on May 8th, 2009 at 7:02 am

Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves

G B SINGH says on June 18th, 2009 at 1:27 am

I WOULD LIKE TO SUBSCRIBE TO ARTICLES ON HAPPINESS.

juju says on July 11th, 2009 at 3:23 am

I have a another view of happiness.happiness is mostly depend on our demand of lifestyle. if our demand is little but our dedication is much.then we must be happy.
another point is greatfullness to other people for any kind of help. it makes people honor not only from provider but also award from god.”ungreatfull people are always unhappy”, my father always quote it to us.

Dave Kashen says on July 31st, 2009 at 10:02 pm

As a personal and executive coach, I focus on supporting people in living happy, fulfilling lives. From what I’ve seen, happiness is about getting clear about who you truly are – your values and purpose, and living a life that’s authentic. Often, people believe they are stuck or have a perspective about life that dis-empowers them from living authentically, and they DON’T KNOW that it’s just a perspective. They think that’s just the way things ARE. When you get that you are always seeing life from a perspective, and that you are free to choose any perspective that empowers you, you see new possibilities for your life- including living a fulfilling, joyful life in line with your values and purpose!

klaus pierre says on September 20th, 2009 at 12:02 am

I used to be so depressed and spend nights in my life wondering why should I live…then I understood inner peace is what we should aim at. I think it should be taught at school, not everyone is born in a loving family that fosters and nurtures happiness without ever speaking about it.

Dr Dennis Maccrombie says on October 20th, 2009 at 9:15 pm

Very interesting. I take a unique approach to personal guidance that I call Transformational Coaching and Mentoring. This work brings together a multitude of my life experiences, Clinical training, and a lot of study and practicing Eastern contemplative traditions. The latter include Taoism, Zen, Mindfulness and the Theravada Abhidhamma (i.e., Buddhist Psychology) and Nondual teachings from both Tibetan and Hindu traditions.

Feel free to read more on my blog
Dr Dennis MacCrombie

dennismaccrombie.com