12 Keys To Winning an Argument

August 17 by | 7 comments | Communication, Lifehack | Tags: , ,

Aguments are an all too common part of life. They should be avoided if possible. But, if you can’t avoid them you may as well win.

Here’s how.

  • Never Accuse your opponent of being wrong.
  • If you realize you made a mistake admit it immediately.
  • Be pleasant.
  • Get your opponent saying “yes” It is a proven technique.
  • Let them talk. “Enough rope,” “digging a hole” all that.
  • Be receptive. We’ve already established we could be wrong.
  • Make it their idea.
  • Play on their wants.
  • Plea for righteousness. Every body wants “whats right.’
  • Back it up. If you’ve got data, use it.
  • Issue a challenge. Men especially will fall for this.
  • Be a Cool Hand Luke. Aguments can get emotional. It is to your advantage to be the calm rational one.

There you have it, now play nice.

Reg Adkins writes on behavior and the human experience at (elementaltruths.blogspot.com).

Reg is a consultant who works in professional development, management techniques, conduct analysis, behavior research, crisis, counseling and intervention techniques, education, anti-racism training and guest speaking.

  • http://www.onusart.org daedal

    Keeping your cool during a heated argument doesn’t only make you look like you’re in control, it’s also a great “attack” by showing your adversary that you know exactly what you are talking about.

    Nervousness and aggressivness are huge signs that the person’s argument is based on emotions rather than on logic and we all know how crazy emotions can be.

    To avoid them flipping out and becoming aggressive, let them finish their thought and then give them your opinion on the subject. Don’t cut them off in the middle of a sentence.

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  • http://marvel.hit.edu.cn:8080 LiuWenmao

    Yeah, I totally agree with what you say.
    Sometimes I’m really tired of arguing with guys who have different opinions.
    The most important thing you should keep in mind is be cool. If such argument seems to be endless, then just quit.

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  • JOnathan

    The best way to win a argument is first agree with what he says, then put a smile on your face…and then punch him. Im right don’t argue with me.

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