Please, chronic complainers: try to quit! The good thing is Steve Pavlina has some pointers.
Perhaps the most important step in quitting the habit of complaining is to disconnect the undesirable behavior from your identity. A common mistake chronic complainers make is to self-identify with the negative thoughts running through their minds. Such a person might admit, “I know I’m responsible for my thoughts, but I don’t know how to stop myself from thinking negatively so often.” That seems like a step in the right direction, and to a certain degree it is, but it’s also a trap. It’s good to take responsibility for your thoughts, but you don’t want to identify with those thoughts to the point you end up blaming yourself and feeling even worse.
Not only does Steve explore why complaining and negative thinking isn’t good for you, or the people around you, but also talks about how to get out of the habit – because that’s what it is.
How to Stop Complaining – [StevePavlina]