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Embrace Who You Really Are and Simplify Life Decisions
“Who am I?” is the universal question most often asked. It begins in adolescence and persists through life’s developmental stages. Thankfully, the responses differ. Can you imagine if every one had the same answer? It would be like watching The Phantom of the Opera with every actor playing the phantom. When you embrace the uniqueness of who you are, you will uncover your life purpose to begin living your dream
Read on for the oh-so-rewarding results of self-acceptance.
1. You’ll be the expert on who you are.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you had an owner’s manual that shows how YOU tick? Learning about yourself is usually a process of trial and error. You can eliminate the errors by tuning in to how you behave and react in different situations. What triggers defensiveness in you? Can you diffuse irritation and avoid going ballistic? Which activities fuel your enthusiasm? Knowing your behaviors, reactions, strengths, and weaknesses equips you to smoothly navigate work situations and social interactions.
2. You’ll gain a BFF for life—YOU.
A healthy self-relationship develops when you fully embrace yourself, warts and all. In a deep relationship, a woman can sense and will gently touch her partner to calm him down during a heated discussion with someone. A man will protectively put himself between his partner and a menacing stranger. When you are a friend to yourself, you won’t put yourself in situations which cause you anger, fear, or sadness. You acknowledge your weaknesses, but you also work at lessening or converting those weaknesses. Acceptance and effort earns self-respect. You’ll start to appreciate yourself.
3. You’ll treat yourself kindly.
You wear many hats in life. You hold a job, are a friend, a spouse, a parent, caregiver to aging parents, driver, confidant, volunteer, etc. Many people depend on you, but you cannot always deliver. Because you are your own BFF, you will be forgiving of our shortcomings. You’ll take mistakes as lessons for improvement and successes as validation of skills. Both will present opportunities for self-nurturing. Treating yourself to some quiet time alone or celebrating with a fun group will become second nature and guilt-free. You know it is well-deserved.
4. You’ll stop living in fear of not being good enough.
Inferiority usually surfaces in comparison with peers. Developmental psychologist Erik Erikson states that the concept of inferiority begins at school age in the classroom environment. Peer pressure is strongest during adolescence due to the amount of time spent with large numbers of similarly-aged groups and the high importance adolescents place on their peers’ opinions. How does this information help you? You can congratulate yourself for transitioning from that challenging time (and be extra kind to adolescents.) You can remind yourself that feelings of not being good enough are just that—feelings, not facts. If you accept your weaknesses, you are less vulnerable to another person’s judgment.
5. A copycat, you’ll never be.
Toddlers imitate their parents and adolescents get influenced by their friends’ choice of colleges to attend. This is part of learning self-concept. A female job intern will follow the dress style of the lady boss and a male apprentice will mimic the authoritative voice of his mentor. This is a natural part of adapting to the work culture. When you embrace who you really are, you have a stable self-concept. You are aware of your personality traits, how you look and sound, your values, beliefs, goals and skills. And you appreciate your individuality. Copy another person’s identity? That’s unlikely because you are comfortable being you.
6. You’ll get rid of “what ifs” and “maybes.”
What if I apply for a marketing job and get rejected? What if I tell this girl I like her and she laughs at my face? What if I start that small business and it goes bust? Maybe I should just settle for where I am now. Over-analyzing and worrying about negative results stems from self-doubt, which is the opposite of self-confidence. A person with good self-esteem has a decent opinion of self and likes him/herself. You know your skills, are guided by your values and beliefs; learn from mistakes, and proudly celebrate your successes. Self-knowledge and appreciation drive away self-doubt.
7. You’ll form deep and meaningful relationships
People get their cue from the way you behave and treat yourself. If your behavior is consistent with your beliefs and values, they will recognize a person who is similar or different from them but who is clearly an individual, with his or her set of beliefs and values. People will not misread your actions. You know what you deserve and are comfortable asking calmly for it. You don’t let others impose their beliefs on you and you withhold judgment on their beliefs. When you embrace who you truly are, you will attract other authentic individuals who respect, value, and support you.
8. You’ll know and can focus on what truly moves you.
Life has a way of throwing questions to which your answers are pivotal. Self-knowledge is a powerful tool in your responses. A series of significant questions and authentic answers will reveal your dream and life purpose. When you embrace who you really are, your answers will ring true and clear, and lead you each step of the way. You’ll instinctively know the job you’ll thrive in, the causes you’ll best contribute to, the people you’ll connect deeply with, and what makes you feel truly alive. Your decision-making will be simple, guided by two questions: “Does this support who I really am?” and “Does this help me live my life purpose?”
9. “Things fall into place” for you.
“You create your reality with your intentions.”
I’ve seen it happen. When you decide and affirm your intention, the opportunities show up inexplicably in the strangest of ways from the most unexpected sources to support that intention.
It works best when:
- your dream/purpose reflects the divine in you, helps others, and protects nature;
- you are clear about your dream and purpose;
- you make each life decision in support of your dream and purpose;
- you believe!
But first of all, you have to embrace who you really are.
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