11 Signs You're So Independent You Scare People Away (And Why It's Alright)
Being highly independent is a good thing. It means you are strong and you have something working right for you, both professionally and personally. However, this can be an intimidating personality to some who feel bewildered by what the term “independence” means.
It’s awesome to be independent, but you should be watchful of the following signs because they just might scare some people away.
1. You are focused on your career
Your career takes so much of your time and energy, it almost feels like a vacuum. Other activities not related to your job might seem mundane in comparison.
2. You know how to say “no”
You have become great at saying “no” to things or activities that do not drive you to your goals. You totally dominate your focus on time and resources. You do not want anyone messing up with what you have going on.
3. You take care of your bills
You are in control of your finances. If someone wants to help you out with taking care of this, you would gladly never oblige to it.
4. You are ambitious
You always want more out of life. Good is not enough, you know you can be better. You are always improving yourself and doing well to make sure you are a better fit for your aspirations.
5. You are selective about relationships
You do not throw yourself at every association or relationship that comes your way. You are meticulous about the relationship you want to go into. You look at patterns and ask yourself the right questions before dipping yourself into any alliances.
6. You are strong
You are not easily fooled or intimidated. Since you are independent, you know what you want out of life and you are clear about it. This affects your self-esteem and confidence positively as you would not accept less than what you feel you deserve.
7. You are realistic
You do not chase after the wind. You know your strengths and flaws. You are willing to use this knowledge as a compass to pursuing those things you want. You are also realistic about your direction and where you are going.
8. You are not comfortable being with needy people
This may push such people away, as you always want activity around you rather than idleness. Yes, such attitude towards people who are not making the best use of their energy and time can make you look icy and callous, but it is just who you are. It has worked so far.
9. You are in control of your life
You are in control of your activities, the way you expend your energy and resources, and you will only give yourself to things that you are interested in because, at the end of the day, it is not about what others think.
10. You plan for the future
You know that living is not about the present, you also have to think of where you will be in the next couple of years. You make plans and organize your affairs in a way that you will meet the future you are determined to get or that you feel you deserve.
11. You are cool with being on your own
You don’t feel needy or try to depend on others. You know how to manage yourself. You are cool with being on your own. Even if no one calls you or tries to contact you, you are fine. You wouldn’t want to trouble others or be in their face. Instead, you would rather find ways to deal with your challenges or situations. At the end of the day, that is what independence means and you are fully up to the task of embracing your true self.
Being highly independent can scare some people away, but you are not callous or mean, you just know how to get the things you want and deserve. What is so wrong about that?
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