For some people, expression of thoughts and emotions comes easy. For others, it’s not so natural. If you fall into the latter category, you’re not alone. Here are 9 things only people who aren’t good at expressing themselves can relate to.

1. You’re perceived as cold

With little facial expression and very few words, people usually think you’re so cold and dare not to approach you. The fact is that your emotions are always stirring inside while your outside doesn’t react accordingly.

2. Your intelligence is often underestimated

People often take fluency in languages as the key of intelligence. It’s true that people who’re fluent in languages have their talents. But it doesn’t mean people who’re not good at expressing themselves are not equally intelligent. Many times in discussion or when meeting new people, as they find you sitting quietly, they’d conclude that you’re not smart enough. They don’t know many highly successful people in human history are not good at expressing themselves (e.g. Albert Einstein).

3. You often think for so long to answer a question

Sometimes it’s hard to find the right word. Words can’t always illustrate your exact thoughts. But more often it’s just too hard to find an absolute answer. To you, things are full of possibilities, you’d seldom conclude things sounding like an expert.

4. You find large group gatherings tiring

In large group gatherings, people exchange views in a quick and surface manner. Before you give an idea, they’ve turned into a new topic already. You’re not good at responding so quickly, nor to interrupt effectively.

5.You’re a great listener

Though you’re not good at speaking, there’re some advantages too. You won’t interrupt like most people do, so when people tell you their sad stories, you really listen. Real listening doesn’t mean giving your own opinions, but just to really listen, show your interest and understanding. Therefore, people find it comforting to have you on their sides, especially when they’re in bad moods.

6. You prefer actions than words

You always know actions speak louder than words. That’s why you spend little time on promoting yourself. Instead, you kickstart things right away to prove your ideas. In personal life, you spend little efforts (actually it’s a great challenge for you too) on polishing your words, you prefer putting them into actions instead of making vague and sugar-coated promises.

7. You sometimes find it hard to vent out your emotions

As said before, not being good at expressing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t have emotions. When you have lots of emotions, you sometimes feel like exploding as they’re stuck in your mind and body.

8. You sometimes find yourself awkward when you spell out your feelings

When you finally try to express your feelings in better ways, you find yourself really awkward, so as people around you who’re not used to it. They’d think you must have gone crazy.

9. Your best friends know all these and won’t force you to change

Fortunately your best friends know all these. They know your struggles and deepest thoughts. They’ve never tried to change you but just to admire such a special friend.

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